So… there has never been trust issues in my marriage. We have a very solid marriage. I recently had a weird feeling that something was up with my husband because he was being a little weird/secretive with his phone. I don’t know why I didn’t trust him because he has never ever given me a reason to doubt him, but I asked to see his phone and he kept trying to get around it until I kind of snapped and finally got him to give in. We ended up in a fight over it, and the only reason he was keeping it from me was because he was planning a surprise party for me with two of my friends and my mother. Not only did I begin to accuse him of being shady but I also ruined the surprise and I’m so angry with myself for not trusting him. It’s only been a day but things still aren’t 100% right between us right now because of some things I said to him.

Any suggestions about where to go from here? I’ve apologized and tried to make things right. He’s not at all being a jerk to me, but he’s definitely still bothered and has kind of kept his distance from me in the last day or so. I screwed up and he didn’t deserve the lack of trust.