I live with my boyfriend of 20 months but feel as if the relationship has come to an end.

We havent had sex for 9 weeks, i have tried everything (lingerie, teasing him, suggesting more adventurous things, inviting him to my shower, asking him what he wants me/us/him to do etc) but he just doesnt seem interested – iv asked him if there’s anything wrong – after a few days he came back to me saying he was nervous – iv asked him why but he cant explain it (or wont) – iv tried asking him more or seeing what i can do to make it easier but he says he doesnt know. – when i finally got to give him oral he kept losing his erection when he has always loved that. I cant figure out if its him or me

Anyway, thats not the only problem;

I have been very relaxed about him doing housework and not nagging too much, ill let it get a bit messy then ask him to help me tidy – which he was fine with but now he gets very annoyed when it gets a little bit messy and will get angry about it for no apparent reason, but once iv tidied and ask him to help me maintain it, he just doesnt do it and will get annoyed at me if i remind (“nag”) him.

Sometimes he just sits there playing games on his phone (xbox and PS is fine – i enjoy watching him play that) and doesnt talk at all – i try just general chat and he just grumps even if he isnt playing on his phone or busy – i try play fighting like we always used to but he just pushes me off and gets annoyed (again)

his attitude about everything is awful – we used to have days out – just walks and stuff which we used to enjoy but now he wont do anything – i suggest something and he just gets grumpy – saying that he doesnt even go out with he mates anymore

hes gone very selfish as well – i text him today asking him to pick me up from the train station (half an hour walk away) cos i have a headache and feel ill – he just text back “no” – this is not like him – i feel like hes not who i got with anymore – iv tried supporting him and talking to him and iv given him 3 months to see if its a faze but apparently not – i need to think about myself cos im clearly not happy.

Theres nothing i can think of thats stressing him that can cause this behavior

I still love him so much and it would break me to leave him but i feel so trapped – even if i do break things off, neither of us have anywhere to go or afford to live alone- with most of our friends in uni, traveling or getting married, theres no one else to live with. (im 21 he’s 25) and both his parents have their own families so he cant go there and i dont see my dad and my mum lives far away.

I dont know what i can do.
I know people probably cant help – i think i just needed the rant – but anything anyone can say will be helpful.