Why cant I do rimming continuously without taking frequent breaks?
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When my husband rims me he does it without taking a single break until i am satisfied. He puts his entire tongue and nose in my anus and I get great pleasure from it when I feel the tickles down in my anus.
However when I go on to rim him, I need to take breaks every minute . Otherwise, I feel very uneasy. its not that his anus is not clean . He cleans it specifically so that i do not have any problem while I am rimming him, but still cannot continue without taking a break. When I am rimming him, his penis is absolutely erect but as soon as I take a break his penis shrinks in size rapidly . He also becomes very restless . Although he doesn’t force me at all I can clearly understand that he is becoming restless and wants me to rim him as fast as possible.
Why cant I rim him continuously without taking a break ?
And why does he get so restless and why does the penis shrink so fast from an absolutely erect position ?
I am somehow unable to put my tongue and nose inside his anus during rimming like he does to me. But while I rim him he keeps stretching his hips wider . Is it an indication that he wants my tongue and nose inside his anus ?
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This question is for you to answer, because I, for myself cannot think of a reason as to why you cannot rim him continuously the way he does to you. However I can assume that your need to catch a breathe is making you stop the activity or your mind prompting you to not go too deep because it’s the area where the waste comes from or you’re not really comfortable doing it. As I said it’s just my assumption.
As for him getting restless, I can understand that this activity means a great deal to him, so when you stop it midway he tends to lose interest and hence his limp penis. He must be a real gentleman to not force you down on him, so that’s good; but you’d need to discuss the same with him. Tell him your problem; discuss it with him, so he can help out in some way; at least he’d know the reason for you taking constant breaks.
Men usually tend to lose erections when they find something not too interesting or a turn-off. For your husband, stopping mid-way while rimming must be a turn-off and that’s the reason for his flaccid penis. Take this for instance, would you feel irritated or lose your mood, when he takes you to the hilt and then stops for a moment without doing a thing? The obvious answer is yes, so try to find a solution to this. If this activity is not in your comfort-zone, tell him the same. Sex is not give and take; you’re not obligated to rim him just so he does it to you.
And yes, when he starts spreading his hips more, it is an indication for you to go in deeper.
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Looks like I am going to become an expert at rimming, by answering all your doubts on the subject.
The straight forward answer to your question is that you do not “like” rimming (correct me if I am wrong) and you are just doing it to please your husband. You have a mental block about this, and though you may enjoy rimming when your husband does it to you, because of the intense sensations, the same does not happen when you are rimming and so it does not excite you in any way.
You have clarified that your revulsion is not due to fear that his anus is not clean. However for years you have believed that the anus is unclean and the fear of infections is not going to disappear in a day. This could be the only reason you take short breaks and like a diver come up for air. In the process, your husband loses his erection, which is but natural. Have you ever been in the midst of sexual intercourse and the phone rings. You would have noticed that a man’s erection disappears when there is a break.
Anal sex, is not widely practiced and rimming even less, so you need not feel guilty about your current situation. Sex is an act of love and fulfilling your partner’s needs is paramount to mind blowing sex. Love making is all about intimacy and acceptance of the whole body of your partner. Analingus, has the sentiment “I love you wholly and no part of you turns me off”. Rimming is called analingus, which is the licking of the anus. Just as cunnilingus is the licking of the vagina.
Analingus is erotic as the anus and surrounding tissue have nerve endings which are highly sensitive to touch. But why am I telling you all this? You have already experienced it!
Do not force yourself to do what you do not like. Let your husband know, that you do not enjoy it as much as he does. He is trying to open his hips wider so that you can put your tongue into his anus. Let him know, how you feel.