How to convince my wife for swinging ?
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Hi All,
This is my first question. I am male, 34 years old. I am married for 8 years. We have a 5 year old kid.
I always dream of swapping, but do not have the courage to ask my wife for the same. I am not even in position to start this discussion with her. She is a typical Indian lady. I don’t want to force her and told her, that only if she is interested we will do it.
But, honestly, I feel, what’s wrong in it ? Anyway, many people are showing interest now-a-days, it will become normal in another 20 years.
So please tell mw what can I do to convince my wife about swinging ?
Thanks.
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Only honest communication with her can help you so go for it as there is no other way but at the same time you should be ready to listen no as it is her right to say no and you should respect her decision but you can try for it as there are chances that she may say yes for the swapping.
Start having a discussion with her and see whether she shows any interest in the subject or not. See some porn movies together where swapping is the main part and then pull the discussion over it to make her understand that this is common these days and many people take the part in it to make their sexual life great.
However, as you said that she is a typical Indian lady then she may not say yes but you should take a chance to see whether she is ready for it or not. If she says no then do not force her and stop making her uncomfortable by keep asking the same thing. You would not be the alone who does not get the swapping.
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Swinging is possible only if you have a great relationship with your Partner. Just because others are doing it, does not mean that your wife will readily agree.
It may take years before she will reluctantly agree to experiment with another man in her bed in your presence. You have to be patient throughout the process of convincing her. She may finally agree, saying that I am doing it for you.
Women have many doubts in their mind about threesomes. Their first doubt is that you have stopped loving her and so are not possessive about her. Or elsehow can you even suggest that she sleeps with another man. You have to keep telling her that you love her and always will.
Another of her doubts will be whether you have another mistress/lover and so are trying to balance out things. She will even tell you, that if I agree, then you may want to have sex with another woman later. You have to address these doubts of hers and convince her that she will always be yours.
Another fear is that in moments of arguments, you will tell her that she has slept with someone else.
You have to create situations where your wife is either a willing or reluctant party to the threesome. This is possible only if you talk to her on the subject. View porn which has threesome as the main topic and talk about it. Ask her about her views etc etc.
Sex is played out in the head and is more exciting to imagine that the actual reality. There are a few problems that you have to consider. Jealousy always affects a couple that’s trying to have a threesome. Insecure thoughts will torment both of you, if sex hasn’t been good for a while, but becomes mind blowing after the arrival of the third person. Questions like those given below will haunt you. “Is she not interested in me anymore?” “Am I just a scapegoat stuck in the middle of these two lusty lovers?” “She wants him with us because he’s better looking and has a bigger cock than me?” “She is kissing him a lot more than she is kissing me, is she falling for him?”
Finally, meet the person few times before you actually go to bed.