Should I continue my Gay experience after Marriage?
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Hi,
I am 28 yrs and happily married for 2 years now.
I was a gay during my adolesense and used by one of my school mates during my +12 holidays (16 yrs) and I enjoyed with limits. He used to blow me several times. After a month of this relationship we departed.
When I was working in other district (21 yrs), I came up meeting 5 different gay experiences. Even though I didn’t thoroughly enjoy it, it was a pleasure for me. Apart from this I had few roleplays with girls but never really fucked them. I used condoms in all occassions.
I was married in 2011 and was with wife for 2 yrs now. But due to some professional commitements now I need to be separated for some time.
Few of my unknown circle friends (mostly online guys) wanted to enjoy with me. Especially my new roommate tries to seduce me. He asks me to touch his innerwears and check quality of cloth. He tries to lift me holding my ass during some house hold activities, casually touching dick, nipples, stomach, etc. Mostly we are alone in house. I feel to avoid but I get aroused when touched in private parts.
Should I avoid one time fun with men (I’m top). Also is it really safe to hang out with online guys or girls like I did before marriage?
I am confused. I work in a big organization and dont want to mix my personal and professional lives.
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orally you are wrong and you should have to retrain yourself as you are married now. It is your responsibility to be loyal to your partner as she is. If you have want to continue your gay relation than you should have not married. Why should your wife suffer on your account? What about your wife? You seem to be like selfish, understand that now you are not alone. It is not the matter of gay; it is a matter of extra marital affair and extra marital affair never good for marriage life.
Be clear on your decision and ask your friend firmly that you do not want such relation and do mean it. It is not right excuse that you are away from your wife so you should have to fulfill your desire. Do not succumb to your desire as it may difficult to restrain yourself initially but on long run, you will never regret yourself.
Being a gay is not bad but after marriage to continue gay act is wrong. If your wife will come to about your gay act than do you an explanation to make her understand? Give a serious thought on this and take a final decision.
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Your Question is full of inconsistencies. On the one hand, you claim you are happily married, and in the same breath, you tell us that you have had gay encounters. You say that you never really fucked the girls you knew, but you used condoms on all occassions. Not only are you confused, we are too.
You now have a wife to think of. What you do with your gay friends now, impacts the relationship with your wife. Imagine her re-action when she gets to know about the experiences you had and about the present too. You have gay tendencies, there is no doubt about that. You may try telling us that you do not enjoy it, but you do. For your room-mate to ask you to check his innerwear cloth, is proof that it is written all over you.
Being gay is not the issue. But trying to live in both worlds is. What do you mean “is it safe to hang out with online guys and gals”. It is not safe, now that you are married. You leave yourself open to blackmail and scandals. Have you ever thought about what would happen in your organisation, if the fact that you are gay, is known. Unfortunately, our Society, Law and the Courts believe that you are a menace to Society and will treat you badly.
You have to take a call on this: what is more important to you – sex or family?