How to make my wife more open in sexual matters?
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I am 37 years old and my wife is 27. We are enjoying sex and after watching porn together she starts giving me blowjob and we have anal sex. But she refuses to let me suck her vagina and says it is dirty.
She shares sexual discussion like dog sex and mating with one of her female friends. She holds my dick when I take her hand and put it on my dick, but she rarely does this on her own. She does other sexual things but only if asked and not by herself. She also enjoys lesbian porn video.
Now any one can give tips regarding:
1. How to convince her to start sexual talk in night?
2. How to know her lesbian interest?
3. How can I make her to do sexual things to me like touching dick etc. on her own, without asking herr to do so?
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You have asked three specific questions and all three you can sort it out only through right communication in right direction with lots of time. Therefore, keep in mind that time can only resolve such matter and you need to put a lot of effort with planning.
It would not be that much easy to make her things which she does not like in first place so when she is in good mood discuss with her your concerns but in healthy manner and not in nagging way. You should not sound accusatory towards her just raise your concerns and give her time to act on it so your demand does not make her defensive. Remember if she gets defensive then she will never be ready to do what you want.
My girlfriend was same and she never liked to touch my penis and blowjob was out of question for me but I kept patient and showed her too much affection and love. Never made her realized that I was with her to get sex and gave confident that I was with her because I liked her as a person.
Whenever I got a chance I let her know that I liked when she touches my dick and it was my dream to get a blowjob from her but never forced her and always changed the topic after letting her know. After three years of our relationship one day on my birthday she gave me blowjob and she liked it.
Gradually she started giving me blowjob on daily basis and she became fond of my penis. Therefore, such thing requires time and patience. Make a strategy and decide how to go about it and follow it. I am sure one day you will get success. Show her love and affection as there is a saying women give sex to get love while men give love to get sex so follow it as it is true in all senses.