Naked in front of children. Is it right or wrong?
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Hi, I am Kapil, 35 years old and my wife is 37 years old. We live in a joint family in a small home, where we have to share the bedroom with my children who are 6 and 3 years old.
Due to less space at home, mostly after bath and after coming from office we change in front of the children itself. I usually don’t remove my underwear, but my wife removes all her clothes in front of them while changing. I told her a few times to avoid this, but she thinks, they both are quite small to get influenced by such nudity (where no sexual activity is involved) and specifically for their mother, any bad feeling will not occur in their mind.
I am concerned about what my 6 years old boy must be thinking? I want to know from other parents and our experts, till what age it is ok to be naked in front of children?
Also, during sex, we take care that they don’t see us. Please advice.
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It wrong to be nude in front of kids especially six yours old boy. Kids are very curious to know about new things, he will definitely ask some weird question out of his innocence.
Since you have small house, limited nudity is normal, as there is less option to change the cloths. Parents should be aware that when they are naked, even if they do not implicate anything sexual, it is not the same for the child.
Psychology advises parents not to stay naked in front of children but instead they should educate their children, as they are the only people who want the best for their child. Do not hesitate to compare views and ask other parents what attitude they have adopted.
6 years old boy is in the phase of fast growing and must be in school so he may share these things with their friends and problem may arise to him. It really has to do with perception. Most people have been programming from an early age that nudity equals sex and intimacy.
Morally, sex and intimacy should be private. The problem is because of the miss-conception that nudity equals sex; the moral association is that nudity should be private as well.
So… morally, nudity should not occur in front of children, even thought it really is not immoral, it is perceived that way, and hence, legally stop being naked in front of kids. You may discuss with your wife about your worry but not in complain manner or do not nag her. Healthy discussion may bring you to some solution.