Why does my husband want to see me while pooping and clean my anus?
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Dear Anjali Madam,
I am a married women, and a house wife. My husband is working in a small company. He is a very good person but only one thing is: he behaves very rudely for some acts in our bed room. Sexually we both are enjoying and seeing depths of happiness.
The matter that bothers me is that he has strong desire to see me while I am pooping. He is trying to convince me from the last 1 year but I rejected it every time. This matter has now turned very serious and he is pooping in our bedroom and asking me to clean that shit on the floor and asking me to wipe his anus.
I am really annoyed with his behaviour. He is blackmailing me saying that if you agree to poop in front of me and let me wipe your anus, otherwise he will poop in the bedroom every day and that should be cleaned by you.
Now, I am thinking whether to fulfill his desire or not or convey this matter to the elders.
I am totally shocked with his acts. One day at midnight, he lifted my skirt and was sniffing my anus and licking it. I was disgusted and slapped him. How can one lick the anus that is the way for shitting. He is requesting me and begging me that he loves my anus, its smell and taste.
From that day we have stopped having sex. But, I am missing having sex with him. I can’t control. At least every two days I want him to fuck me. I am searching for ways to approach him for sex.
I have some doubts:
Does a husband have every right to do anything with his wife?
Why does he like my anus?
Why does he lick and sniff my anus? Is it really tasty?
How can I show him while i pooping as I am feeling very shy and just cant do it.
What does he get if he sees me while pooping?
Should I allow him to see my poop session?
Should I allow him to wipe my anus after defecation?
Please HELP. Your answers will help me to restore my sexual life.
thank you
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I read all detailed query. It seems that u r really missing sex with ur husband, but it is only u who is not letting this happen. Look, men have various sexual desires and sometimes they might sound weird & it is quite normal. See the desperation of your husband, you said you both have happy satisfactory sex life then why r u ruining it? It is just matter of ego & so called ethics. Look my dear friend ethics should be kept outside of bedroom. You should always look for ur partner’s happiness. & Yes it is not that men can do anything they want but if ur husband insisting u since 1 year it should his strong desire & you should fulfil it. What will go wrong if poop in front of your very own husband & what will happen if he cleans your anus. Why r u thinking about good thing & bad thing it’s not a bad thing.
You can do one thing to restart your sex life that do what ur husband wants but at the same time tell him about ur feeling about pooping scene & ask him that u will do it for once only. Trust me he’ll go mad & your sex life will be restored. Its nothing offensive if u poop for ur husband & let him clean your anus for once.
Main thing I want to tell u is that, never involve third person to ur sexual life. plz don’t convey this scene to elders this may lead to break ur marriage plz don’t do so. Problems can be solved by discussion. Take him in faith. & yes in case u understand Hindi “zindagi me yeh hunar bhi aajmana chahiye, Jung agar apno se ho to haar jana chahiye” (u should have a skill to loose a battle if it is being fought with your very own person)
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Hi hope you are having a great day. I think what your husband is going through a fetish. It s not one of the most normal fetishes out there but there are men who enjoy this kinda fetish and sometimes women too. All you need to do is sit with him and talk to him. Explain that somethings are making you uncomfortable and give you time to think or at least take things slow. You need to tell him and explain that blackmailing or pooping in the room or threatening is not the way to get his desires fullfilled and explain that desires should be enjoyable to both husband and wife not just one party.
I mean some of the questions you asked you can take it slow one by one and see how you feel. For example some women really enjoy anus being licked.
Again tell him to take things slow and make you feel comfortable and dont force you.
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He does not have a right to do anything in which you are uncomfortable and never give up to his pressure otherwise he would do the same thing to convince in each of his demands. You should warn him that you would tell this to your elders and he has to face the consequences of it. Never wash his ass after pooping and never allow him to poop in the bedroom.
It seems that he is mentally ill as he does not understand that he tries to make you things you are not comfortable in. He is abusing you and your relationship would never be a good if he continues with his behavior. However, it sounds that he pressurizes you to do something like this because you are not showing your resistances and you have not taken any actions to make him stop.
You have a right tell his parents what he has been doing and even tell your parents to step in the situation. Do not succumb to his pressure in any situation as you have a right to protest.
However, there are many men who are in this kind of act but the bottom line is that the both partners are willingly to do it but in your case you do not like and he has to respect your decision. If he wants to lick your asshole then you can allow him and I would bet you that you would like it the most even more than your vagina to be sucked so give it a try as it is called rimming and you can Google it for further information but never poop in front of him and never allow him to wipe your anus after pooping as that is the invasion of your womanhood.
Many men are into anus licking and it gives them a great pleasure like many men like coffee over tea and it sounds that it is his coffee. It is his personal preferences that he likes your anus and no one can blame him for that as it is something he likes it.
He will get pleasure while seeing you poop as it is his strong desire. Overall, what he wants to do is does not matter if you do not like it and here it clearly sounds that you are against of his idea so do not allow him no matter what may come. You should learn how to stand up for yourself as it is the matter of your dignity. He needs you see the therapist.