My husband wants me to flirt with other men in public places. Is he normal?
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Dear Anjali,
I am a 30 yrs old housewife from Delhi, married for last 6 years and have a kid. My husband is very loving and caring.He is in Dubai and comes home only twice a year.
We used to talk on phone everyday. For last couple of months, he started encouraging me to buy and try some sexy innerwears. I took it as a good change and thought he might be looking for some spice. Over time, he sent me some pics of ladies in salwar suit with deep cleavages and low neck and asked me to get few suits stiched this way. Again I just thought it as an effort to spice up the married life.
Finally he asked me to go to places like malls in such outfits and be a little flirty with other men. First I thought it is some joke, but he was not joking. He told me he really wanted it. This idea thrills me too but I am not able to understand what is his interest, in my flirting with other men. Rather than being jealous, how he can enjoy it?
Though this is something weired but my husband is quite an intelligent man, sucessful in his carrier. Is this normal behaviour for him to enjoy such thing
Please advice.
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After going through your question I am getting smell of something, as you said there may be fantasy in seeing you in different bikini, some people like wife sharing, couple swapping, but here I think the case is not that much simple,
as you said he comes to you twice in a year, so he may have feelings that you remain untouched for a long period of six months and during this period, what do you do for your desire. So he is trying to know your attitude.
Therefore my suggestion is that don’t do all these, your hubby want to see that how comfortable you are with this kind of flirt, after that he may draw a conclusion out of it and if you are already doing this kind of things he want to listen it from yourself and than he will take his own course of action.
So be aware, and reject the idea straight forward.
Have a nice day
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After reading your question many thoughts came to my mind. I had two main reasons and many different reasons regarding your question, Why he said this to you
let me explain you why he asked this to you.
Reason 1:Mainly he have read or listened or seen any situation that hubby is abroad and wife having relations with another men as these we regularly see in Social media, News papers(News Media) all these may have effected him strongly and he wanted to know about your attitude and may ask you all these things to do.
Reason 2:He may be a classic case of cupboard cuckold , tendency generated due to the company he keeps by or by the articles read by him on web.He may feel that you are not satisfied with him in sex because of his visit twice in a year to india and in those visit he cant do satisfactory sex with you so he want you to flirt some guy and have satisfied sex while he is absent and away .
Reason 3:He want his wife(you) to be a modern girl, he may enjoy when u flirt people(he did not asked you to have sex with them).
Reason 4:He may be wanted to share or swap(couples involved) you with any other unknown person or with his friends, On this pretex he might have been asking you to do all these thing and tasting the waters
Like this many reasons could be there for his behavior, To conform what he want by doing these things you may ask him
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He gets turned on by exposing you in public. In his subconscious he think he has something which others can only see. Many husbands like this. He is totally normal like others. Actually these fetishes does not have any relation with anybody’s intelligence. You must talk to him about this. and you tell him your limits. I mean both of you must discuss this so that you know what actually he wants. May be sharing you with someone else turns him on more. So you must talk to him about it.I read that this idea thrills you too so I think you too like his nature. Take your time and think on the issues like your reputation if someone discovers about his voyeurism nature. I don’t know exactly in which society you live so it totally depends on you that you carry forward this idea or stops your husband from doing so. Be safe
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go lady go !!! if you love respect your husband!!
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