Girlfriend wants to breakup relationship for not allowing to wear crop tops, what’s your opinion?
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Girlfriend is okay to end our relationship over crop-tops. What do you think?
I’m so tired of being told I’m insecure because I don’t like my partner wearing crop tops
I(m27) am not comfortable with my partner wearing croptops and (very short) shorts in public and posting those pics on instagram. My reasoning is that: She already looks beautiful and she does not need to resort to exposing clothes to enhance looks. I dont like her exposing because it just attracts unwanted attention. In my humble opinion, such cloths are more popular in western culture, and for their own reason. Coming from a conservative culture in our country, this may not be needed.
Again, I want to stress that, I do not intend to control her cloths, but want to tell what is my comfort. (anyway she is okay to breakup with me than to not wearing exposing cloths)
Can you please tell me If something is seriously wrong with my mindset? I just want honest responses, I was already told I am insecure, narrow-minded, and the girl should run away.
She says that it is not just about crop tops, it is first line of control. She calls me control freak.
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If your relationship is on the line due to a small problem, it’s worth re-evaluating your connection. While respecting a woman’s choice in clothing is important, finding compromises on certain matters may contribute to a healthier relationship. Now you should Assess whether the relationship is genuinely meaningful or just a casual pass-time
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I dont think theres anything wrong with your perspective. As both of your perspective fails to sit with eachother then it is better to be let go of each other. Let her wear crop top or walk naked. Find someone whos in alignment with your views. Also remember these doesnt imply that youre narrowminded/insecure. Dont bent onto their values if you think yours is valid.
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Umm.. who are you to say this? Who says its to enhance looks? She wants to look attractive and to look attractive, she may need to wear revealing attire.
You are free to dislike it. But you have no rights. Your rights are limited to what your partner allows you. She has not allowed you this right.
Unwanted for whom? For you? She wants that attention. So she will try to get it. Simple.
Now you have the right to walk way. That’s your choice.
I won’t call you insecure or narrow-minded. Those are perceptions or judgments depending on where you live, what your culture is. You might be super liberal for someone from a village. You might be narrow-minded for someone from a metro. It is up to you to choose the kind of woman who is on the same level.
Your mindset is a tough one to pull off in a big city today though. Because there are many men who encourage their GFs to wear revealing clothes, and they enjoy the attention she gets. If more people desire her, they like it. If she just looks good, they like it. You might be behind the times or unsuitable for your society. That is somethng you should decide if you want to continue or not.