My Fiancee (28F) doesn’t want me (33M) to comment on her IG posts and she deleted my comment?
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it’s an arranged match. we met a couple of months ago. we like each other a lot we talk all the time.she said she had feeling for me. so I don’t think she hates this match.
she went on a vacation with her family she posted it on her insta and I left a comment. she deleted it and told me not to comment at all.
That’s not all one weird thing is. she didn’t invite her friends to the engagement party and she said she forgot to invite and didn’t announce her engagement or post a photos on Instagram.
one other thing is a couple of days ago we planned a date but she canceled it last minute it happened a couple of times and things got heated a bit. i apologized and told her i understand and it won’t happen again.
that night she told me ” everything’s ok good night i am going to sleep” . but she’s online using instagram . i am also browsing Instagram and went to her profile i saw that she posted a story but i didn’t receive any notification. i asked her are you online and did you hide your Instagram story ? she denied and said she didn’t hide her story. but that’s a lie you can hide it from a specific person.
i understand why she did it she’s want space . why did she lie though she could’ve told me she needed a space i woul’ve been ok with it.
EDIT: forgot to add one thing. she follows her ex bf (they broke up 3 or 4 years ago) and I saw it and I asked her about it. she said its long time ago he didn’t mean anything i told her i feel uncomfortable she unfollowed him and then she said i wanted to invite him to out wedding. i was shocked told her no and she said fine. when i asked her why ? she said “there’s nothing between us everything is fine he’s just any other friend and wanted to invite him on good faith”.
some clarifications: 1. the reason she gave me for no comments policy is it’s something along the lines of her followers will trouble me. i don’t know i forgot what she said.
2. she said she will post our pics after wedding.
3. yes she didn’t invite them for her engagement i think they know the date . she did invite them for marriage.
4.she lives in abroad and i live in India. we did one month of LDR. we did video calls everyday.
5. by the way she got a weird stalker too. some guy proposed to her a couple of years ago and harrasing her ever since he found out about the wedding . issue is resolved after warning. total amount of people who proposed to her are around 20 she rejected all of them. . even last month 3 people proposed to her she didn’t say anything she smiled and left apparently.
6. i don’t know man i saw a genuine likeness in her face and shes honest at the same time some odd things.
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She’s showing signs of trouble. It’s hard to believe she forgot to invite her friends, that excuse doesn’t hold up. Maybe she doesn’t want people to know you’re engaged and planning to marry. She could be seeing someone else, unsure about the relationship, or even planning to divorce you later for money, which unfortunately happens in India. I knew someone who went through a similar situation and it ended badly. His marriage was a disaster, leaving him poor and his parents in bad health and reputation.
You should tell her she can’t delete your comments and ask her to stop doing things she knows bother you. If things don’t improve, it might be best to end the relationship and find someone better to marry. Good luck, buddy.
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She could be keeping secrets about her past, especially since it’s an arranged marriage. Maybe she went through a breakup recently. Personally, I’m not bothered by that. What worries me is that she seems to be treating you badly, yet you’re the one apologizing. Also, if my partner told me not to comment on their photo without a good reason, I’d end things.
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She’s probably cheating on you. Like someone else said, it’s strange for a girl not to invite her friends to her engagement party. She might be hiding the fact that she’s engaged to someone else.
Her lack of interest in going on a date with you shows she’s not into you (and might like someone else).
I think she agreed to an arranged marriage because her family didn’t approve of her past relationship. But don’t assume too quickly. Collect enough evidence of any other relationship she might have before breaking up with her.