I saw my mother on porn website. What should I do?
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I am a girl, but watch a lot of porn and love it. One day, as usual I was visiting a porn site which I do daily. I saw their advt. “local moms are ready to fuck”. Out of curiousity I clicked on the Site. There were a few sign up procedures which I did just for fun. After I finished signing in, I accessed the Site.
I was shocked to see a picture of my mother showing her boobs. I saw pictures of her posted in 4 different poses. All those pictures were photographed by someone else. She was looking like a porn actor.
I am shocked and confused how her nude photos are on the internet. Could it be possible that those photos are cropped and superimposed or are they really of my mother nude? How to approach this topic with my mother?
Guys please do not ask me for the name of the Site. I shall not tell you. But your suggestions how to handle this are most welcome.
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I’m sure you are not the 1st person that this has happened to, and no doubt, you will not be the last.
You haven’t mentioned whether your mum is divorced, widowed, or still married. If she is divorced or widowed, then what she has done is really up to her. If she is still married, then she is either contemplating (or is already) cheating on her husband, or she’s doing this with his knowledge, and, presumably, his consent. If she’s contemplating (or actually) cheating on your father, then you have cause for concern, as, if this gets uncovered, it will cause serious problems in the family, if not tear it apart.
Something that you have to accept is the fact that, your mother is an adult, and is capable of making her own decisions. You may not like them, and you may even disagree with them quite vehemently, but in the final analysis, she has a right to do what she wants to do, as long as she’s not harming other people. I suppose it could be argued that she is mentally harming you, and if your friends were to find her pictures on the same website that you obviously enjoy, it could cause you all kinds of social problems.
You ask if these pictures could have been faked by using photoshop or some such photo editing package? Anything is possible, with the complexity of photo editing software, but as there is no shortage of women who are prepared to do this kind of thing, why would anybody bother? I’m afraid to say that if your mother’s photos appear to show her naked or semi naked, it’s probably because that’s how they were taken. It is a case that sometimes celebrities get treated to a lot of trickery in order to embarrass them, or to cater to the fantasies of those guys who spend far too much of their time locked in a darkened bedroom, wanking themselves to death; but the average housewife? Sorry, no one would be bothered when there are so many of them out there that will do it without hesitation.
Now comes the tricky bit, what to do about it? It’s really up to you, if you want to mention it to your mum that you have seen her compromising pictures on a porno site. The reality is, that even if she knows that you seen them, there will be nothing she can do about them now. Once these pictures are out there, there’s no way of retracting them. If you put pictures in the public domain, or allow yourself to be put in the public domain, it’s letting the genie out of the bottle, and you can’t get it back in again!!! I suppose the most fortunate thing is that, the pictures on these websites change frequently, as there is no shortage of women who are prepared to do anything in front of the camera.
The one thing I would not do, is to talk to your father about it. If he goes on in blissful ignorance, so much the better, but if you are the one that brings it to his attention, you will become piggy in the middle. Your dad will, subconsciously at least, resent you for bringing this to his attention (most men hate being forced to confront situations that they would rather not have to deal with), and your mother will hate you for betraying her. You can talk to her about it, if you have the courage to do so, but even then, it may cause resentment on her part. If I was in your position, I would just leave them to get on with their lives, and make their own mistakes. You probably have enough on your plate as a young girl, without adding unnecessary stresses of family arguments and possible breakup.
I’m sorry I can’t be more help, but sometimes there’s no easy answers. Just don’t let yourself be inadvertently the cause of a major upset.
Good luck,
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Dont worry, this situation can be tackled. you are a human being, a girl and has sexual urges and you it is not wrong for you or anyone to have such feelings. we humans are not monogamous by nature. to have urge to have sex outside marriage is normal though many do not get opportunity to do it.
So even if the pics are real and posted my your mother it is okay. these days this is one way of having sex or fun. and those who are interested in sex only see such site, whether it is son, father, mother or daughter.
the Forst thing is clear your doubt. approach your mother and tell her that as a young girl you are also interested in sex and watch sex sites, which is very common these days and common knowledge too. then tell her you saw her pictures in a site or look alike pictures in a site and ask her is it safe. also tell her that you will keep it a secret.
then you will come to know the truth.
but anyway do not tell your father.
if it her true pictures posted by her, let her enjoy her life. she is a mature woman. keep it a secret. if it is really posted by her, she knows very well that it is for public viewing.
i see many nude photos daily, but i cant remember a single photo or face. in this site the viewer and viewed are in the same boat or status.
it is not a big issue, any way clear your doubt. doubt is a slow poison. and remember what your mother has done is not a great sin.
good luck