How should a man react if his wife wants to go on a date with another man?
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Hello Everyone,
I may not be able to give you preface due to this being a Public site.
When your wife asks you that she want to go on a date with another man, and you happily agree (they also need change) but they do not go ahead because of their busy schedule, but one fine day after many months you find out that she is now mentally attached and hiding many things and text messages about the relationship. how do you react?
I would love to hear from all intellectual ladies. I also welcome male uesrs thought process too.
Now my question. .
1. When women ask you for this then how should you interpret this?
Not necessarily you should stick to answer my question. I encourage you to explain your view point as detailed as you want to. You can ask as many questions in reply.
Some additional input.
1. I had ensured all sexual needs fulfilled in the past.
2. That gentlemen is a close Family friend.
3. Only unhappiness she might have is that I am less romantic. She talks about few desires of hers that I did not fulfill.
4. I am more practical and she is more of a dreamer. Like you see happens in romantic movies.
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From the sketch picture you have given us, it seems that your marriage is on shaky ground. It is difficult to believe that a wife will ask for permission to date another man. And that husband will willingly give permission for his wife to go on a date.
I am not saying that threesomes are not possible, but you have not said anything about this relationship being a threesome. From what you have told us, it seems that your wife was in a relationship with this close friend of yours and she only wanted your consent to continue the relationship, which obviously you willingly gave.
Now, why are you complaining?
All the points you have mentioned as additional inputs are not the reason for your wife seeking an extramarital affair. I also note that no where in your question you call her your wife, but ask the question in a round about way, as if this position does not affect you.
Are you hiding from us that you are also having an affair? How else will you justify that a woman also needs change and so it is okay to go on a date (have an extramarital affair). Marriage is not based on justifying threesomes. Get you thinking right.
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The differences you have highlighted are fundamental differences between man and woman. As most of the time for man, love means sex and for woman it is entirely opposite. To go on date with other male after being married not good sign for healthy married life as it would definitely create animosity in married life on long run as suspicious angel always there.
If your wife asks to go on date with someone else and you have no problem seeing her reasons genuine still you should not allow her to go ahead instead try to fulfill her expectations. Talk to her that you are trying your best to live up to her expectations. Remember no men in the world can digest the fact that her woman seeing someone else or already seen other man.
Moreover, your description instigates me that your wife cheated on you and now you are fall into her trap as she asked your permission before going on date so you could not blame her for her disloyalty. Ask your wife to stop dating another man and strengthen your marriage life. If your wife wants you to be dreamier then you should try for it, as she is asking positive changes in you. Never take married life on lighter note.
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After reading your question, I have interpreted the entire scenario differently. I think, at back of your mind you have cuckold or threesome fantasy, which led you to give your wife permission for date with your family friend.
Some inputs from you would have helped us to answer in better way. Is the family friends belongs to your family or her family? How many years you are married for? And bla bla…
With points you mentioned, I know it by my experience, such fantasy backfire many times. You were expecting her to go on date with her friend as per your convenience and keep you updated about this. You wanted to control this act as per your desires and limits set by you, however it is gone out of your control now.
If someone is possessive, then shall not entertain such dating requests, whatsoever be the reason.
About your wife, the reason behind cheating is obviously the differences you yourself mentioned in additional points. Women always live in a dreamland and always keep looking for more entertaining partner.
Talk to her. Tell that you don’t like her going out with the other man. That might help.