I am a 57-year-old, married man. I have been involved with a friend, a 51-year-old widow, for the last five years. Over the last six months, we have grown very close. However, while we do get intimate in many ways, she is reluctant to have sexual intercourse. She says that she has no interest in sex, and that she hasn’t engaged in it ever since she lost her husband 14 years ago. As we are in love, we cannot part ways, and if I try to stay away from her and avoid her phone calls, she gets affected very deeply. I fear that she may suffer from depression again – she suffered from depression after the demise of her husband, and is still under medication for it. All of this has made me lose interest in having sex with my wife, and whenever my wife wants to have sex, I cannot satisfy her. Besides, when my penis is erect, she denies me intercourse. So, both arrangements are not working for me. Please help