37M married to 32f for almost 7 years now. We had a baby this year and he is 8 months old. My wife is bipolar and we consult a psychologist as required.

She is a homemaker while I run a shop. My working hours are from morning 9:30 to evening 8:30. Since its a small time transit time is half an hour max.

I know raising a child is difficult along doing all the household work. Whenever I am home I take care of the baby as much as I can. Feeding, cleaning, changing and wake up at nights to quiet him when he cries. Still I get yelled at for not helping with the baby. She says she looks after him whole day. I get it but what can I do? How do I look after him during the day?

This morning we had a big fight. I fed the baby and was getting ready to go to work. The baby pooped and I asked my wife to clean it. That triggered her. She started yelling why she should be the only one to do this stuff. I said I do it when I am home and I am getting late. And she tore into me for that. She started counting things she does.

I have tried real hard to be understanding. I rarely fight because I worry about her bipolar relapses. But sometimes its just too much. I am just worried that someday I am going to loose my patience and the relationship is going to suffer massively. But then I think should I be the only one thinking about it? Is the whole onus of having a healthy relationship on me alone? I have tried talking and explaining things with her so many times that I have lost counts. And it isn’t even that she doesn’t agree. She will agree with I say but will forget about it the next moment.

People say she can’t help herself and she has a short command over her temper and behaviour. But what about how it effects me. Should I listen to everything without complaining? It has got me so frustrated at times that I find to concentrate on anything else. I have been in a piss poor mood since morning and that sort of things just isn’t good for work. No clue what to do.

Edit: Most people suggested to get a house help. We already have one.