orry, this is going to be a long message.

My husband and I have been together for 7.5 years and married for 2 years. A year and a half ago, I discovered that my husband contacted an ex-girlfriend on Facebook. She was his first love and they sent some flirty messages back and forth. He was going to meet up with her to have coffee but never did (I know this because he was with my brother in law the entire time he would have been meeting her) I confronted him about this and told him how hurt it made me that he would go behind my back to meet up with her. I don’t have a problem with him being friends with an ex; I just want to know about it. He seemed very sorry and said that he would be honest with me, and he hadn’t contacted her since.

About a week and a half ago, my husband moved back to our hometown for work. I will be moving back as well in two weeks once I go on maternity leave as I am currently 7.5 months pregnant with our first child. I visited him on the weekend and went on his computer to check facebook and his facebook was automatically logged in. I noticed that he had a message from his ex in his inbox. I opened the message and read the thread. The day he moved, he messaged her on facebook to see how she’s been and to let her know he moved back for work. She asked how he was and she gave him her phone number so he could call her if he ever wanted to talk. There is absolutely no mention of me or our baby in any of the messages he sent her.

I thought I’d keep an eye on the situation because he never mentioned any of this to me when I was visiting him on the weekend. I checked his facebook tonight and he messaged her today and apologized for not making it over to see her on the weekend. Again, no mention of me or our baby. They messaged back and forth and he ended up asking her if she would be up for messing around like they did in the good old days! She told him she was in a committed relationship and was not going to throw it away for a fling, and that she didn’t appreciate him thinking of her only as a booty call. I talked to him on the phone 15 minutes before he sent her that message and everything seemed fine! I haven’t confronted him yet. How should I go about doing it? He is coming up to visit and to help me pack on Friday. Please help!