I think the answer is yes, because I don’t care if it is.

I’m a very easy-going man. I’ve never been attracted to really prissy, make-upy girly girls. Some guys need arm candy, I’m not one of them. My wife pretty much does what she wants as far as dress and grooming and I’m cool with it. She’s not overly vain, so we get along fine. I actually like much of what she does.

There is only one exception. I’ve got a thing about lips. I love them supple and am disgusted by them being crusty. They don’t need to be painted or glossy, just not chapped. For years I’ve been asking my wife to stop biting her lips and to take care of them. It’s literally the only single thing I ask. I don’t trip out about her comfortable shoes or the fact that she’s a meat-eater (which is disgusting, but I think people should eat what they want). So it burns me that she’s completely unaware that her lips look like she’s been stranded in the desert for days. Mine look fine and the only thing I do is put a little Shea butter on my face in the morning after I shower and shave. So it’s not like I’m asking for something elaborate.

She comes to sit down with me and spend time together, but all I can see is those lips. Now she’s mad at me because I told her. I know it’s insensitive. I just don’t know what to do. She kissed me the last time we were intimate and they scraped me. That’s ridiculous.