Am I being insecure about it or should I do something about it?
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Sorry in advance for long text but I need genuine advice on this as I have been losing my sleep for weeks thinking about this issue.
I am married and I live in a joint family setting. I am a busy person who is working most of the time in a day so I can’t be at home all the time. My wife, being a housewife stays and looks after house chores. My cousin brother is very jolly in nature and he stays home all day. He has very good sense humor and most of the family members like him for cracking silly jokes. My wife also giggles hard on every silly joke he makes and my cousin brother also behaves very friendly with my wife. Not like touching or anything but he will simply make sure he is around my wife when she works. Like when my wife is cooking in the kitchen he always goes to the kitchen every chance he gets and makes her laugh. My wife is an introverted person and I know she will laugh even if the joke isn’t funny just not to sound rude to someone.
I trust her and know she will never do anything that will hurt me but I don’t know how to tackle this issue. Is it something I should worry about or am I over thinking?
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Bro ig you are overthinking, take your wife on a vacation, go out with her, enjoy time w her, you will easily understand what she feels for you, and I am guessing your cousin is as old as you are so when he gets married these interactions with your wife will automatically reduce.
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I think you are being insecure about it to be honest. If they live together then they are going to talk and laugh if they get on and maybe even more so if they don’t get along that well just because they live together. It’s what comes of living with family.
But also being insecure is not necessarily a bad thing. It’s just how you feel. Whilst it’s definitely good to spend quality time with your wife, I’m not sure if this the best motivator for that. I think it’s best to spend quality time together because you want to, not because you’re motivated by jealously. Believe me, women can sense that.
I think at the end of the day you have to decide what’s more important to you. Sharing a home with your family and accepting the natural interaction that comes with that or living alone with your wife and accepting the responsibilities that come with that.
I don’t think you can stay living with him and try to manipulate the situation to suit you best as both your wife and cousin will resist the manipulation and in the end that’s likely to cause more problems that your current insecurity.