I am having trouble reconciling the events that have taken place in my marriage over the last 3 weeks. I guess I just want to know if anyone else has ever been through something similar…

3 weeks ago my husband of 5 years told me (over the phone) that he has been unhappy for a long time and wanted to stay with his brother for a little while. He said his feelings for me flip-flop. One moment he loves me, the next he isn’t sure. He said he needs time to find himself. He suggested a 6 month trial separation.

A week after that we finally sat down to discuss our situation. At that time he said he feels like this is really the end for us, but he wants to try the separation to be sure. We’ve been together a total of 8 years and have history. He said no matter what, he absolutely cannot live without me in his life in some way.

Yesterday, after very little contact, he called to tell me that he and his brother are moving his mother and themselves out-of-state, possibly as soon as the end of November.

I am totally at a loss as to where this is coming from. Obviously, we had issues I was both aware and unaware of. This is all happening so fast… Has anyone else experienced this in their marriage or past relationships?