Am losing focus due to lust for sex. Can anyone help me?
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I am 28, from mumbai, studying and working as well. Currently, I am on leave for my exams. With porn,I could pleasure myself till now, but two incidents have made me hungry for sex and this is causing me trouble to focus on my studies which is the most important or only relevant thing in my life for now.
Having said that and even realizing that, I cannot concentrate and am losing control to such an extent that I am willing to have paid sex (which I am afraid of). One incident is that my best friend was lucky to lose his virginity in a one night stand and the second incident which is responsible in fuelling my desire is that a couple of weeks ago I saw my neighbor with a lady ( I am not judging her). He is a bachelor like me. I saw them in a compromising position when I peeped from my bedroom window.
These incidents have made me lose my control, even porn seems uninteresting, and even a sex toy which I have has lost its novelty and staying alone in a flat makes me more vulnerable.
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You are staying alone in the flat so it is reasonably complicated for you to refrain yourself from not thinking about sex as being alone sex thoughts always approach mind especially at this tender age. You should understand that your neighbor is not for you, you saw her in compromising position that is your error. You have only option and that is self-control. Do not peep inside your neighbor’s room as that will beginning you towards sex curiosity. One thing is good that you understand the value of education therefore; you just have to bring your focus back. Do certain things like remove all porno material, stop reading sexual stuff and do not think about your neighbor. You will get your sex partner at right time but this time is for study. If possible, shift your place and be with your friends all the time. Go for work as soon as examinations are over.
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the persons who have started viewing porn cannot easily stop looking at them.
once you start pleasuring yourself with the videos you tend to have an erection only by watching videos.
once you have watched a video enough times then you tend to search more hardcore and different fantasies and different things which make you vulnerable.
Best thing is quit PORN for quite a sometime as one cannot stop at a instance!
Get a girl friend or Fuck Buddy(one who is mutual thoughts in only fucking but not intimate love making)
Dont get bored
If you have free time just start doing some work because if you have more free time you tend to watch porn
As far as your incidents
your friend is lucky and you may get lucky soon
and your neighbour get to know what is the matter by making friends
and dude you are 28 as you say dont your parents force you to get married????(No offence)