My husband and I have only been married 1 week – we waited until marriage to be completely intimate, although we’d definitely “fooled around” before that. Then the big surprise, on our wedding night, he couldn’t even get hard  He decided it was “performance anxiety” even though I told him I had no expectations other than for us to enjoy one another. All weekend in fact. He finally got randomly hard Monday morning and I was able to get on him for just a couple minutes before he went flaccid again. Same thing this morning before work – we were able to be “together” a few short minutes and then he wasn’t hard enough anymore.

He is convinced it’s just stress and exhaustion – probably true given his job has been crazy and we’re working on orchestrating a move overseas with the military in a few weeks. But honestly the LAST thing I expected us to have any problems with was having sex!! We’re both highly driven in that way – but I’m guessing now maybe I am more so. He is really sweet to me, wants to take care of me, promises it’ll all be okay – I do believe him, I’m just struggling with why this is a problem right now when we’re first married and finally able to relax and have freedom.

Anyway, I’m really, really frustrated, but I can’t let him know anymore because it only adds to his stress and would make it less likely for us to finally be able to completely be together – long enough to make it count.

He decided last night we should keep fooling around and just see what happened – I guess he was sorta craving it, so we did, and he desired I make him come with my hand – which I did, but he didn’t even get totally hard before he came by my manual stimulation.

I’m just soooooo frustrated because I want to have sex with my husband – I’ve waited my WHOLE LIFE for this!!! And now it’s just not even happening. I know I should be patient but it is so difficult. Plus we have only a short time because he’s going overseas in a couple weeks and I won’t get to see him again for a few weeks. Plus I’m going to do natural birth control and so the days when we can completely relax with regard to that are somewhat limited. This week and next week are safe, but not even knowing that is making it work  He is 36 and never been married, but that shouldn’t be old enough to have any problems I wouldn’t think… =/