Did I make a big mistake sucking my Boss?
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Hi,
I am Anusha. I am married and working. My hubby works away from home ans so we meet once in a month. Now, I have a new Boss in my office. He is not so good looking and not fair also. He is not married and he calls me to the office now and then.
Last week, he called me to his office room and told me what work was to be done on a priority. While chatting suddenly, I could see that he was stroking his penis, under the drawer. I was shocked and came away from his room.This action was repeated 3-4 times but he talks normally later on. He told me that I am a very efficient worker and good looking too.
Yesterday, he called me to his office in the morning and told me to sit down. Suddenly he got up and he pulled his pants down and forcibly put his penis in my mouth. He told he is very desperate and to co-operate.
I could not resist him and had to suck him off. After that, I came back. I have never sucked a man other than my hubby and now I don’t know how to continue my work in the coming days.
I don’t know whether I did wrong or right. I am expecting suggestions from you all.
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I’m sorry, but you have made a rod for your own back. You should have immediately left his office, and reported him for sexual harassment to his superior. In cooperating with him, you have effectively ruled out that course of action, as he can claim that you were fully co-operative with him.
I would be very surprised if he didn’t expect a repeat performance, and if you do this again, you will be taking the next step towards being forced into an affair. In these days of miniaturised cameras, and phones equipped with cameras, it wouldn’t surprise me if he has recorded evidence of your activities, in order to both protect himself from any claims you might make, and to also use against you.
You are extremely foolish. The very 1st time you saw him playing with his penis, you should have reported him for inappropriate behaviour. People that behave in this fashion really have no place being in charge of others, and in fact, should be fired on the spot for such behaviour. If you had encouraged him in any way, it would be a different story, between you and him. However, what he did wasn’t instigated by you, but you were foolish in not reporting it.
If we assume that you are good at your job, as this guy suggested, I would imagine that it would be quite straightforward to move to a different company. I would do that as soon as possible, rather than leave yourself in a vulnerable position. Learn by your mistake. And that mistake was not standing up for yourself at the 1st sign of a problem. I know it seems unfair that you may have 2 give up a job that perhaps you actually like, but it’s not a fair world is it!!! In a fair and decent world, we women wouldn’t have to stand for that kind of behaviour in the 1st is.
Start looking through the “situations vacant” columns in your newspaper, get your CV written, and sent out to all the recruitment agencies, and talk to his boss about a decent reference, and if you’re feeling brave enough, tell him why you want to leave; then move to a different company as soon as you can. Of course, it could be that his boss is a decent man, and your sex pest might get fired for his behaviour. This would be the ideal result, as you could keep your job, and other women in the company wouldn’t be subjected to his unwanted advances. But as I say, that’s the ideal world, not the world we live in, sadly!!!
Best of luck,
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She is certainly the victim of a serious sexual assault, though by the definition of the law, he didn’t rape her; as this would require vaginal or anal penetration without her consent.
The big problem is that when he first started exposing himself to her, she should have, at the very least, made it perfectly clear to him that his behaviour was completely unacceptable, and told him that any repeat performance would be reported to his superior. This probably would have stopped anything further taking place. On the second occasion, she should definitely have reported his behaviour to his superior, and if no action had then been taken, she should then have taken it as far as she could, up the chain of command. Failing action being taken by her company, she could have reported it to the police. I suspect that even threatening to report this matter to the police would have resulted in some form of disciplinary action against the perpetrator, if not summary dismissal. Unfortunately, she didn’t do any of these things, which just encouraged him to think he could get away with escalating his behaviour from mere exhibitionism and lewd behaviour, to committing a criminal act. And even after he had committed a criminal act against her, she still didn’t report it to anybody.
Her dilemma is understandable, standards of behaviour in the workplace, and the penalties for infringements of them vary from one country to another. Where I’m from, these things are treated with extreme seriousness, and any form of inappropriate sexual obehaviour from either men or women is taken seriously. There are very clear rules against discrimination of any kind, bullying and so on,with a sliding scale of penalties, including criminal proceedings in the most serious cases as a consequence. Any of the behaviour that we are discussing here would lead to instant dismissal, and the final act would bring criminal charges against the perpetrator. Whether the same can be said about attitudes in India, I will let other people comment. Given the prevalence of lewd behaviour by men on buses and trains as an example, I suspect that a very different attitude prevails, but I’m aware that I’m going on anecdotal evidence here, rather than cold hard facts, so I would be very happy, and very relieved, if those who know better can tell me that this guy’s behaviour would be punished under Indian criminal law.
This lady is, understandably enough, anxious about being coerced into further episodes with her boss, and I don’t doubt that she feels like her job may depend on “cooperating” with his demands. Hence my suggestion that she should seek a job elsewhere at the earliest opportunity. I still feel that she should report his behaviour to his superiors, even though, without any witnesses, he could easily turn round and say that she provoked the whole thing. I know it’s not fair, but my experience of life has shown me that things seldom are!!!
At least you have shown sympathy for the lady, which she deserves, even though what she really needs is someone to boost her confidence in being able to talk to her senior management and/or the Police.
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You need to decide whether did you enjoy it or nor? Being right or wrong may vary from person to person.
If not then clear things with you boss that whatever happened was first and last time. He may consider your silence as your consent.
If you enjoyed it then you are matured enough to set your limit. Dominate the situation and your choice. Don’t let your boss decide it.