Do you think I should marry my boyfriend?
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I’m Lavanya, 37 years old. I’m from Kerala. I’m divorced once and married another guy. He is 41 years old. He is having a small business. I have a daughter from my first husband. She is 16 years old.
We both met through a matrimonial site and went for dating and had sex many times and then decided to get married. Recently, I met a guy through the same matrimonial site. He is also married. We became friends. He calls me everyday and we have some sweet talks.
One week ago, we met each other at a coffee shop and I was surprised to see him. He is only 26 years old. He was so huge and muscular. He said that he is not having good relationship with his wife. His wife is not interested in sex.
I couldn’t sleep that night. I was so horny that I did sex with my husband many times that night. Next day, we went to a house in a village. It was a small village and no houses were nearby. The house was surrounded by rubber trees but it wasn’t a rubber estate.
There we had sex from morning to evening. We got tired and we went back home next morning. But my husband was angry with me because he was having doubts about me. Yesterday, my Friend asked me to marry him and divorce my husband. He is also ready to divorce his wife and accept my daughter.
Yesterday, I wore very tight churidar and very tight leggings to movies when he insisted. I liked this very much. He wanted me to expose my body. Now I can’t control my lust for him.
Do you think I should marry him?
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Lust and Sex is one thing, Marriage is a different kettle of fish. If both are together, that would be ideal and great.
I think you are rushing matters. You need to think about this carefully. For one, you both are married. Do you think Divorce is so easy to get? It takes years for a settlement. On what grounds would you ask for divorce? You and your Husband are having sex (many times in a night when you are fantasizing about your friend). Your husband will contest the divorce fiercely.
And then there is the little matter about your daughter. Have you sounded her out? What makes you think that she will meekly accept a third man as her father? She will raise hell.
You have not told us the reason for your first divorce.
The fact that you met this young man on a Matrimonial Site, indicates that you both are looking for a shift in the present relationship.
It is a common excuse of all men, that their wives are not giving them enough Sex and hence they are looking for an affair. Since you are thinking long term (marriage), you need to know everything about this man. Find an excuse to meet his wife. While not all men are crooks, there are many of them around.
I am curious to know what excuse you gave your husband and daughter for staying out for the night.
Have as much Sex as you desire, but be cautious before you agree to marry him.
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First thing you did wrong was that you had not deactivated your profile at the matrimonial site after you got married to your husband who you found there. You do not have a solid ground to divorce your husband and marry your boyfriend as sex is not base to get married to him.
Moreover, it seems that you may not have a future with him since he is way younger than you and one day he will lose interest in you when you will reach the age where sex would not be your priority. He wants to leave his wife to have sex with you because you are ready always and do not have any problem in spreading your legs for him so you have to be ready in the future that he will leave you when someone else he finds out who is ready to offer her vagina to him as he wants sex only.
He can leave you for another woman if he leaves his wife for you as he is capable of doing it. Why you want to leave your present husband who seems mature and perfect for you. You should take any decision keeping a long term plan in your mind. I would say stop having sex with your boyfriend and focus on your married life and make sure that your husband is happy with you. There are many things in married life apart from sex so do not ruin your happy married life just to get under your boyfriend.
Are you sure that your boyfriend is the man for you with whim you can spend your rest of the life?
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first of all, how can any matrimony site allowed profiles which are already married.
I mean as you are married now, why you didn’t shut your profile at that site.
Most of the profile on this sites are fake. so he may be a fake person who only want to get sleep with you. he may take your pics or videos to later blackmail you.
as your current husband, I see him good guy. coz many people are hesitate to marry a divorce lady or a widow lady and if she have kids from past marriage they refused to accept that kids. your husband not only accept you but your daughter also. you must respect him for that.
now about sex. sex is important but it’s only temporary thing. talk with your husband if you are not sexually satisfied with him. if you discuss this with him you can get a good solution for that.
so your question was should you divorce your husband to marry that guy.
I must say absolutely not. as that guy may be fake and risking many things for just sex is not good idea. you should avoid that guy as much you can.
hope you understand what I wanted to say. still any doubts ask here.