Does my SIL likes me or not? How can I handle this situation?
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I am a married man who have a kid and my age is 30, my SIL is a married woman of 29 with a kid too , I always have been fond of her. I got married 4 years back. Since marriage I have very less interaction with my SIL but I have a feeling that she likes me . I wanted to play with her, so 4 days back I just sent her an email telling her that I have got attracted to her and i messaged her to check the mail, since she was is in office she checked after some time, immediately she messaged me like she has not expected this, I should not have behaved like this ..bla bla.Point is i already had this expectation from her. After some time I expressed an apology and tried to explain to her that it was a mere emotional attraction and said sorry again , but she told me that she is going to inform her husband, i requested her not to do that but she seemed very firm on that, at night i asked her whether she had informed her husband or what to that she replied in negative and explained that she has not for the sake of both families and also added that she is not going to reveal this to anyone ever . Next morning i called her and again expressed an apology , during this interaction she was continiously asking me the reason why i feel attracted to her, but i didnt answer.
Now the catch is the mail I sent her I attached script which will show me how many times the mail was opened and viewd, when I checked the statics today she viewd the my mail almost 20 times in last 2 days, I got some courage and called her yesterday, my SIL told me she decided to move on with this issue and we both have to forget it, so lets close this here and lets not discuss it anymore and discuss something else, I tried to talk about the attraction but she denied to talk about that, she told me no messages and no calls here after with respect to this matter and cut the call..
Mostly she is behaving as I already had expected, now below are the points which indicate in my opinion that it looks like she likes me or is interested in me to an extent ,
1. She have read my mail more than 20 times
2.She have not informed anyone
3.She still speaks to me normally
Now how can I proceed further?
PS : No advice please, I am aware of the consequences.
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I dont want to go with stupid philosophy of men and woman thoughts. I will tell you what one can note from your question.
I should say that it is your good luck that she have not said anything to her husband yet, but dont think that your luck will run longer. You are just annoying her, you are playing with fire. Just for the sake of pleasure of a very little time dont spoil your life. She can not only tell this to her husband but she can tell your wife too. Think what will be the result then. You will not get her and there is a big chance that even your wife will leave you and you have to be ashamed in your inlaws. Dont forget her husband may kick your ass.
1. She have read my mail more than 20 times
Does not means that she liked your mail and she read it like a love letter. It might be very disgusting for her and she may have not believe what you wrote it may be her anger state that she have read that many times.
2.She have not informed anyone
You have already got the answer from her. She is a woman and she is more mature than you if she informs her husband, he will defiantly make a big issue and she may not want her sister’s house to get ruined. But unfortunately she got a brother in law like you, who have an evil eye on her and its an unfortunate for your wife that she have a husband like you who have an evil eye on her own sister.
3.She still speaks to me normally
Do you want her to beat you up or say bad words.
I must say you need to be mature and you have to grow up.
there is still time that you should quit this it may drew you to serious problems.
A relation can stand only with the consent of two individuals other than that is force.
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If she was genuinely not interested she would do the following. 1. She would say that she is happy with her husband and loves him. 2 She would probably be polite and ask you not to repeat this. I would suggest you persist with her. But not as if you are asking her a favor, rather as a thrilling game that she should be a part of. You could for example send her an email which says something to the following effect.
Dear xx.. I wrote, your read, you probably read again, you got excited but then scared, felt guilty and chose to reprimand me, end of story. Well, not quite. My strong attraction for you refuses to go away. You can ignore me, scream at me…may be even inform your husband. But sweetie, none of this changes the fact that you are a damn beautiful woman. Or simply accept that you are beautiful. In our next social get together wear something red. Thats all. All I want to do is watch you look beautiful. And just in case you are wondering. I am not ashamed or guilty. My feelings are my feelings and I have not hurt anyone. So red it is. I will not call or reply to any message on this. love..yy
If she wears red, progress slowly. If she doesn’t and say wore blue, tell her how stupid of you was to ask her to wear red when she looked prettier in blue. Don’t appear desperate, charm her. Even if she doesn’t sleep with you there is nothing more romantic than a woman looking ate herself in the mirror one last time before going to a party because you will be there.