Does this mean that I am incestuous? is there something wrong with me?
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That is despite the fact that I am a successful (socially, financially and intellectually) man with a happy family, yet I found myself in this unsolvable predicament! I am in love with my sister, this love caused confusion in my sexual life; somehow, I started thinking of her in a sexual way. But first, let me define (in a sexual way). My fantasy does not involve intercourse but it does involve trust, love, openness, and perhaps softcore (i.e oral-sex or simple foreplay)
Again (and perhaps finally will state my question), let me define oral-sex for this context; I simply love her and wish I can French kiss her, smell her body, cuddle her, fondle with her romantically of course, tell her my outmost secrets and fantasies whether those fantasies are sexual or just whatever they are, all of this is motivated by love NOT ONLY lust. Definitely I would feel horny but I know deep down there in my heart that I am not looking for intercourse with her. She is mature and bachelor.
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You are trying to justify between lust and love and soft sex and intercourse.. Sex encompasses all acts including oral, anal, cuddling etc. While the human male body does not differentiate in its reaction towards the female sex, it is the mind that should control our sexual reactions.
Most of us may have admired our siblings at some stage in our lives, but better sense always prevails. Society and its culture is critical of an act that is incestuous in nature and while in the past we have been extremely intolerant of speaking on the subject, we have realized that it exists and are now flexible to talk about the issue.
You say deep down in your heart you are not looking for intercourse. Tell me, you cuddle her, smell her hair, French kiss her and imagine for a moment she responds…then what …you are not going to have intercourse? Stop fooling yourself.
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Yes buddy, you’re not normal, you’re incestuous. Let me clarify you, there is no big difference between having a soft-core session and penetration when it comes down to your sister. She isn’t your lover or your girlfriend with whom you can make love. It is natural to feel infatuated towards ones own sister owing to the amount of love and care one shows, but mistaking it for a physical relationship just puts out the beast in a human.
You’re a sick guy, because all these days when you’ve been having these normal conversations with her, moving with her out, roaming places, holding her hand etc…….. you had been having these thoughts about her and it isn’t love, it is your lust. You might say, I love her as well as lust her, but these 2 cannot stay in a single place when it comes to blood relationship. Your desires are overpowered and you might at anytime pounce on her, because you really seem to have no control over your mind.
I said, its natural to feel attracted but giving it a serious thought just puts the evil side; I suggest you find yourself a girl and live your life with her and not get into your sister’s life. Let her live peacefully and drop your ideas about her.
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Hmmmmmm, we all are tempted by the forbidden at times; and this can take many forms. Society frowns upon many things sexual, and Incest is one of the biggest no no’s in the list of things that are considered outside the boundaries of acceptable behaviour.
As a girl who threw away the rule book many years ago, I’m not about to pontificate on the morality of your desires, but what you have to consider is your sister’s feelings. You appear to have so far not attempted to make her aware of your desires, and how do you think she would react if she knew what’s going on in your head? Even if she shared your incestuous desires, would oral sex be sufficient for either of you once you’ve tasted the forbidden fruit? And to take this extremely unlikely scenario further, what happens if the family discovers this (even if this is only your solo desire). I have to wonder whether something happened in the past that has caused this desire? Incestuous behaviour between brothers and sisters happens quite frequently during adolescence, but is usually down to curiosity which vanishes as maturity leads to more “normal” interests. It does continue in some siblings, but is always swept under the carpet. I think you need to look at the issues your desires will raise, and where they came from, what caused them, and so on; then I hope you will act accordingly.
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I do not understand. You say you get an erection and you love it but you do not want to put it to use. That is how you sound. Well not exactly a great metaphor but since it involves some sex, will do. Funnily you would want to touch her, fondle her, promise her oral sex and then merely kiss her and yet remain platonic? Do you expect your sister to reciprocate the same – allow you to touch and kiss her and ignore the sexual arousal she experiences? Now this is assuming your dear sister is really excited about being subjected to this by her dear brother. In short, you get your sister to do things to her and she likes it but does not expect anything more than a nice platonic love.
You are truly confused. Getting your sister to cross over from being one to being a lover is a big question mark for you. Assuming she does so, getting her to reciprocate the kind of love you expect without expecting sexual gratification – now this is something even your wife will not be happy about.
So here is my suggestion to you: Your fantasy is unrealistic and illogical. But if it brings any comfort to you, keep fantasising. Create your own parallel world where you keep this on using your imagination. But draw a fine line between fantasy and real life and never let one cross the othe