We have being seeing each other for 3 months. Initially it was going well. In her past relationship, the guy cheated on her but she said that she’s moved on as it was over two years ago. It was all okay. And pretty quick into dating each other there were lots of fights and initially I didn’t understood but then the intensity and frequency started increasing and it always revolved around how I’m not giving enough attention and how I’m not being romantic. All of these were on very small things like not texting for 4 hours. I said that all the fights are too much and I just want some peace. We sorted it out eventually. She says that she loves me but I said that I need more time and love is a strong emotion for me and I’m not quite there. We had fight over this also. But again talked it over.

So recently she and I were outside and she points to a girl and says something like she’s cute isn’t she? I didn’t say much but she said it multiple times. She usually does it for fun but this time she kept repeating so I glanced at couple of times towards her purely on curiosity. Then later that night she texts me after reaching home that she’s feeling insecure and I get called in middle of the night and she’s having a full blown anxiety attack. The reason? Her friend told me that her ex cheated on her and she’s traumatised and insecure that next guy (me) might do the same. And me looking at other girls triggered her into thinking I am not fully with her. I am not exactly sure what to do. I like her but I didn’t know anything about the baggage. Yes, she’s moved on from her ex but moving on to me is not just with the person, it’s moving on from the relationship. If she has traumas then I felt like I should’ve known about it. We had this discussion and she always said that she moved on pretty quick. Now I’m realising these petty fights were because she was just insecure and had anxiety. I have my own share of issues and tbh if she said this to me during initial few dates I might not have chosen to go forward. I do t know, I might be asking too much but I feel like I deserved to know before I was emotionally invested. I dont know how to proceed. I can’t do anything to help her with this. There are always nitpicks, small things that lead to fights and I am skeptical that this will stop in future.