Had sex with my student. Is it right?
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Hello ! Anjali,
I am 32 yers old, married woman. My Husband is a Business Man and I am a Lecturer. I love my job and I like sex very much but because of some stress and work my Husband does not fulfill my desires.
My problem is that I have a student in my class who is 19 years old. He is very good In studies. He lives in my building. He stares at me and always gives me a smile. He comes to my place to clear his study doubts. He likes me very much and cares for me.
Yesterday he proposed to me and he started to press my boobs and kissed me. One thing led to another and we had sex 3 times.
He told me it will be in total privacy. Is it right to have sex with him?
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Ankita, Dear We wont comment on morality aspect of this matter.It depends on that persons views/ values/ upbringing . means what could be bad for one could be good for other,
You are a woman in your early thirties and i believe that women are at their sexual peak either in late twenties or early thirties. Having sex with your student is not good that much is clear. its a sacred relation and has to be honoured at all costs.
You have not made it cleared weather you have kids or what ! But if you do have and your hubby comes to know about your relations with this stud what his reaction would be? Extramarital affairs are very sweet when they begin but when the ends more often than not they leave bitter taste behind. All the prestige/ reputation of you and your family is at stake and there is often far more to loose than temporary sexual pleasure, this pleasure is a fire no matter how much you try to fight it by having it repeated sexual encounters acts as a fuel to it and it go on blazing more and more.
Dont know how much mature your stud is but when and if you would like to stop this he could try to blackmail you. So at least now take precautions that he wont have against you like video or audio smses / emails and photos and even when you guys talk on phone always assume that he could have been recording this unknown to you and dont talk anything too sigificant only official
But if it suits your morality and if you keep this a secret you can enjoy this but always be ready to face its consequences . Best of luck.
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If this was revealed, it would cost you your job, your marriage, and probably destroy your reputation with friends and family.
What is the risk. Leaving aside the moral issue, which is no one’s business but your own, you are not being sexually fulfilled by your husband. Have you tried to talk honestly with him about your needs? Taking a young man as a lover may seem like a solution, but if you’re presently sexually unfulfilled, an illicit affair may change the whole way you see your life, and can possibly hurt you in the long run. What happens if you develop real feelings for this young lover, who is bound to leave you at some point? Alternatively, you may become so casual about the whole thing, and start having sex with one student after another, and treating sex as a recreational sport, taking your pleasure whenever you see the opportunity. But, sooner or later, you could be exposed if you become too blase.
I’m not saying you can’t do it if that’s what you want, but think carefully about possible consequences before rushing in without consideration of the end result.
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As far as physical desire is concerned, it is right to get satisfied our-self no matter what the circumstances it was. Human body needs sex but we have some rules. As we are living in society, where everything must be in order so morally it is not right to have sex with student as student teacher relationship is respectable but at the same time teacher student encounter is most fantasized so personally I did not find any weird as you have right to enjoy sex.
You have mentioned that because of work stress your husband is not able to satisfy you if it is only reason for you to find a sex outside the marriage than you should try to resolve your problem with your husband and discuss the matter with him. You may plan your sex early in the morning. Your student is not a permanent solution for you, he is with you because of his personal reason, and once he found his way he will leave you alone as he has his own reason to continue relationship.
Try to introspect your relationship with your husband, bring a solution. Discuss with him showing your interest to strengthen the relationship when he is in good mood.
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It is clear from your text that your student is the one who lured you into having sex with her. Now I will not give lecture on your morals and won’t judge you because there is nothing immoral in that and those who believe there is should keep their brain checked. I myself is an 18 yr old girl so I can try to step into your student’s shoes and analyse why she behaved like that and seduced you.
First of all there are many girls like me who are into a bit older dudes.My bf is also around 30 yrs age.And here in India only a few percentage of people actually do care for their grooming.If I were a girl who likes older dudes and I see a charming,lively,muscular and well groomed teacher , I would totally fall for him and if the said teacher shows a sense of caring for me I would rub myself imagining riding the said teacher.So it’s not far fetched why she liked you. She may have only liked your face . You can’t really tell.It depend on girl to girl. But it was clear that she likes guys of your age long before she set her eyes on you.
She followed a well understood sequence of steps and you fell for it. LOL.Open up with him, show him that he is the only one she feels attached to, somehow meet him in private(in your case she has her own home at her disposal for such private meetings), seduce him until he gives up, if he doesn’t then it’s action time(when she kissed you that was her last step).He will give up and then make him do what you want him to.
Don’t go for her cute face, she has clearly followed well thought out steps to bring you to her bed. Remember you didn’t fuck her , she fucked you.It was she who wanted it and she got it.
I’d suggest you to get over whatever guilt you are feeling and stop thinking about right or wrong because you have been fucked by her already.
Thing is if I were at her place I would make a video of my sexy time with you to blackmail you into doing what I want from you if you ever refuse in future.So I can guarantee that she in some way either recorded or took a couple of picture of you getting naughty with her. If you now say no to her things will get scary. From your description of her she looks like a calculated *****.Trust me I know a few like her in real life.
Rest assured she won’t ask you for money as she is already rich.She is full of lust and she is choosy.She liked a guy and she got him now. She is going to make you fuck her in every way she wants.Also get ready to involve in some weird fetishes of her as we girls have some in our kitty and we show it to guys we know would do it for us.
Your real concern should be your own mind.Don’t tell your wife about it.Keep having ample amount of sex with her so she won’t smell a rat. Always take a bathe when leaving out your student’s house otherwise your wife will identify the smell of strange perfume.You have advantage of reaching before your wife as you still have a few good hours to kill after college hours.Don’t ever confide to your wife about it no matter how much you love her.Keep your married life and affair life separate.
I’d suggest you to be careful and keep having sex as long as she is willing because you don’t know what she would do if you don’t.She can tell your wife about it , tell your dean about it.So it’s not worth the risk.Sometimes moral can take a backseat. If it helps see her as your lover than your student. For god’s sake she is not kid , you have mentioned it a few times in your text.She is not even virgin so don’t think that she is telling you all the truth.As Rose of titanic movie said, ‘a woman’s heart is an ocean of secrets.’ or something along that line. She might have fucked a few teacher or other guys before you and might never tell you about it. Hence don’t torture yourself thinking about the morals and such things.It doesn’t exist in this world and those who will moral police you here ,as they did to me, would never leave such a chance if they ever got themselves.
Lastly,,don’t think that the girls who offered sexual perks in return of marks would say same thing to fat belly ,ill groomed, ugly professors.I laughed hard even thinking about it, isn’t it obvious why they offered you. You didn’t need to tell them to not talk like that to other professors because they won’t. You sound too naive in matter pertaining to girls . Have a good sex life ahead.
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Hi professor….
I read ur long writing n convinced that you are happy with ur wife and enjoy your married life fully. You are virgin till ur marriage means you want to present yourself to ur future wife as exclusively for her. But she is not virgin. How you know it ? Did she say you that she did sex with other or you knew from any other sources ?
You have committed a mistake by fucking ur student. But now a days who cares about morals. She is interested to get ur sex. So she seduced you and clearly told you that she want only sex, nothing more. It is good for you. So l think, you also have interest to sex her. So you keep relation with her as long as she wants.
As far as ur wife is concerned, she is not virgin as you mentioned. She enjoy sex with other guy. It does not means she is unfaithful to you. she loves you a lot but enjoy other guy, it is very normal today. You also encourage her if she want such. Do not break her freedom. So if you sex other girl it will not unfaithful to ur wife. It is only enjoyment. As ur wife loves only you, so you love ur wife only and take care her fully.
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This could be a fantasy, or it could be genuine. Given that many students have crushes on their teachers, I will treat this as genuine.
I think that subconsciously, you wanted this to happen. When this girl asked you to come to her house to give her private tuition, I’m pretty sure that you either consciously or subconsciously knew what was on the agenda. You went there, and you kept going, even after she made it perfectly clear (as if she hadn’t already done so), what her real agenda was. You could have stopped going to her place at any time, if you really wanted to. But you didn’t, and the inevitable happened.
You can blame the gophers seducing you, but you were very ready to be seduced, so I’m sorry, but the two of you are equally to blame. She knows you’re married, but it doesn’t matter to her. You know you are cheating on your wife, but you still went ahead and did it anyway.
I wonder how many people in the world feel the same way as you do? You feel guilty for cheating on your wife, but the thrill and excitement of doing something illicit is tempting you to keep it going. You are asking us for advice on what to do, but I wouldn’t mind betting on next six months salary that you will do whatever you want to do, regardless of what we might tell you. As for me, I’m not going to tell you to do anything but follow your inclinations. Your own conscience will tell you whether to cheat on your wife or not. I suspect that, having already cheated on her once, you will find it possible to justify doing so again, and again, and again.
You say that this young girl was not a virgin when you first had sex with her. Did she tell you this herself, or are you just assuming, simply because there wasn’t blood and a scream of pain when you penetrated her? There are many ways that a girl can lose her virginity, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s had sex with somebody else. Her hymen could have ruptured due to masturbation, or the simple act of inserting a sanitary tampon inter vagina fur monthly period; it could even have happened during extremely vigourous exercise, or riding a bicycle or a horse. Assuming that the girl is sexually experienced, on the basis that she didn’t bleed when you had sex with her is taking assumptions way too far.
Even if she wasn’t a virgin, what difference does it make? You are still cheating on your wife. If you can reconcile yourself with this fact, and can accept that the consequences of it might destroy your marriage, if you get found out, then carry on. You won’t hear any moral argument or judgement from me on this.
There is writing on the wall however. After coming back from this girls place, you are too tired to have sex, and your wife, who is used to having fun with you when she wants, must have been wondering why you didn’t rise to the occasion (pun intended). If this happens to frequently, she will definitely suspect that you are having fun somewhere else, not leaving enough energy for her to enjoy the pleasures that she is used to. Some women can become quite clever at this point, and it doesn’t cost that much to get a specialist to follow you, and find out what you are getting up to. If she does this, then you’d better stand by for the mother of all battles!!! It may even culminate in divorce.
If you are going to continue, you are going to have to be a damn sight cleverer than you are being at the moment. All I will say by way of advice is that you must think very very carefully about the consequences of your actions. Why things up, and then decide on a course of action, having carefully considered all sides of the equation.