My husband has been going to a party with his peers almost every week. He always invites me to go with him but I don’t drink and these parties are centered around drinking so I just sit in the corner, besides now I have a baby to take care of. I don’t mind him going but he always wants sex when he gets home and this is usually very unpleasant for me. I never refuse him because I consider sex as one of my duties as his wife.

I very seldom enjoy sex, even under the best of circumstances. I never get wet and have to use a lube. When he is drunk, he takes a long time to climax so I get dry and it starts to hurt. Last night was the worst, he went on for over half an hour and he never did climax. He went to sleep (or passed out) on top of me, he is a foot taller than me and weighs twice as much. I finally got him off me, cleaned him up and covered. I thought he would sleep through the night but he got sick and threw up in the bed. I didn’t know what to do but he woke up and I got him in the shower and I cleaned up the mess.

I haven’t been able to get to sleep and I’m sore from the dry sex. I took a bath and it helped a little. When I dried off, I noticed I was bleeding but I think it stopped now. I’ve been using KY Ultra Gel, is there any lube that would last longer?

Why do men get so libidinous when they are drinking? I get pleasure from pleasing him but when he is drunk I wonder if he even remembers having sex.