How can I satisfy my sexual desires without being disloyal to my love ?
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I’m 22 year male, and has a girlfriend of same age. We love each other very much. But the problem is that my girlfriend is very conservative in the matter sex and physical relationship. I’m doing study away from hometown so we hardly meet each other. Only once or twice in a year. But we never had even touched each other. Once we did some romantic chat over phone (not phone sex, it was just virtual cuddling and kiss as we see in family movie) . But after that event she was so regretful to herself and even tried to break our relationship. I somehow finally convinced her. After that I never forced or tried to talk her something intimating. But like everyone else I too had a sexual desires, I masturbate a lot. But it’s not enough to satisfy my needs, till date I’m pure virgin, never had sex or even kissed anyone. Sometimes I feel very horny, and think to have sex with some another girl but at the same end I feel like cheating to her. I don’t know how she cope up with her sexual needs, I don’t think she even masturbates. She’s girl of my dream and I truly love her. But I’m not sure whether we would get married in future. And moreover I’m not going to get married before 5 years. Noway, I’m gonna ask her and neither she would get convinced for sex. Although I have said to her that I feel like getting involved with someone else, she doesn’t object she just says that its your personal life, do what you want.
Before you guys make any background, let me clear you all that we are not very conservative and traditional or belong to a backward(rural) areas, she’s just conservative in the matter of sex only. She’s a part of a college music band, and I’m doing my engineering.
So, my question is what should I do to satisfy my sexual desires, as masturbating is not a solution, and I can’t get her ready for sex. Should I move ahead and find another girl and have sex?
One most important thing, I would like to get answers from female editors mainly like Anjali aunty, Sexysalma. As I want to get this answer from point of view of a girl.
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See you are looking for answers specially from female, I dont fall on that group. So I am writing something, and dont even expect that you will read. I am not sure if you have read any of my reply before, I often hear my replies are too rude. Here goes one more rude reply.
First of all, I dont see there is any future on this relationship. You two hardly meet, hardly talk on intimate talk, and most important line you have written, she doesnot care if you have sex with anyone. Can you understand the meaning? She gives a crap about what you are going to do, add to that being conservative brought up, a girl would wnot keep waiting till the age of 27 for you.
So you think you love her and she is your dream girl is enough? Comeon, a lot of people dream about Sunny Leone, so what? Does that matter? Dont fall in love in such a conditional ways. Condition one, same age, she can get married now but for you she has to wait for 5 years. Condition two, on a love everytime its mentioned love is more psychological but touch always flair up the love, you simply have no touch. Condition says you hardly meet, hardly have intimate talk and hard she cares about who you sleep with or not.
My two cents worth, you two are going parallel, its never going to intersect in future. Rather than fall in love hopelessly, try to find the girl who loves you for who you are. Forget this one, start afresh. Else more delay you make, pain of heart break will be more. She wont give a damn, whereevr her parets would find a match, she will say bye bye to you.
There is no future on any one sided love. It never had, never will. It ends up bitter parting, its better to be mentally prepared.
If you are hurt by my reply, I cant hep more with sweet words. But at the end of the day you will know this is the only practical thing I am talking about that you cant see for being in love. Its hard to read, you are not in love with this girl, you are in love with the feeling of love you feel when you think of her. A classic one sided lover”s symptom.
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Your wish is my command!!!!!
You have a problem. You want sex, she doesn’t. Have you asked her why she’s not wanting to enjoy one of lifss most wonderful gifts? She is from a conservative family, or she isn’t ready to commit to a sexual relationship? There is a difference you know. You say you don’t know whether you will marry her, well, that doesn’t encourage her to want to jump nto bed with you. In your society, many men expect virgin brides, so she’s hardly going to let you pop her cherry if she doesn’t even know if you and she will become Mr and Mrs.
As for you, accept that girls aren’t there for your sexual gratification. Before any decent girl sleeps with a guy, she wants a relationship. She isn’t just interested in sex without commitment like guys are. I think you’d best find a working girl (escort) if you can’t satisfy your needs by a daily wank!!! Its a very dishonest way to behave if you form a relationship with a girl just so you can fuck her, then dump her when you go back to miss prim and proper.
I think you would be more realistic in you outlook if you forget your telephone girlfriend, after all, seeing her once or twice a year is hardly a real relationship is it!!! Develop a genuine friendship with a girl in your college or your locality. If the friendship blossoms into love, then accept whatever follows. As I say, if all you want is a fuck, visit an escort, as she will not want anything except payment for her services. Just make sure you wear a condom, whoever you have sex with . No nonsense about so called “safe periods.” There is no safe period; and don’t be making her take emergency ipills. These are not good for her health. If you meet a nice girl, treat her with respect and kindness, she has feelings, and isn’t just a warm hole for your cock!!!