How to forget my girl friend’s relationship with her office mate?
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We were in a serious relationship for past 3 years. We had some physical as well as phone sex. For the last one year she was showing lack of interest in everything and avoiding me.
Recently when i took her phone and checked her call history, I came to know that she was in a relationship with her office mate who is one year younger to her. When I asked her about it, she confessed everything including her physical and phone sex with him.
She told me that she’s guilty about it and it was a mistake. Now she is ready to resign the job and stop everything. I know she really loves me and I love her too. I can’t imagine my life without her. But the past incidents haunt me.
What should I do? Plz help.
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I think you are confused that whether you should marry her or not. So here is the possible solution-
If you do no have any problem when your wife do sex with others and not regularly and exclusively with you (means she in extra marital affair and cuckolds you ) then there is no problem in marrying her.
BUT if you want a wife that is fully devoted to you then you must find some other girl which you can trust.
If you are opting second solution then it will not be easy to breakup with this girl (girl in which you are in relationship ) since you are emotionally attached to her so carry on with her physically and slowly and steadily turn your mind away from her and then do a clear cut breakup. and then search for the one whom you can trust.
WHATEVER you do but don’t trust this girl and her claims that she will never again do sex with some other guy , she definitely will have sex when she would get an opportunity.
This is my opinion Think yourself and its your life please take informed decision!
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This relationship can only move forward if you can forget the past, truly forget the past, not have it dripping poison in your thoughts. If you marry her, and can’t forget her past infidelities, your marriage will be a disaster.
Love conquers all, so they say, but her past taints the love you have for her because you can’t accept that she cheated, and therefore you worry that she will cheat in the future. Well, the truth is this: Lots of people, both boys and girls have cheated their partners at one time or another, it’s just a fact of life that you need to come to terms with. Most cheats get away with it, and their partner is blissfully unaware of the adventures their partner bad. You didn’t mention your age or hers, but I imagine you are both still young; maybe too young to be thinking about marriage. Certainly your girlfriend is still discovering the pleasures of sex, and, while she may be harbouring long term ambitions of being your wife, she doesn’t seem ready to settle down yet. She’s tasted a bit of freedom to enjoy herself, and discovered what fun a single girl can have!!!
There are no guarantees in life except income tax, and death at the finish; all else is unwritten. There’s nothing to say that you will be faithful to her, ten years down the line. She may devote herself to you with every iota of her existence, and you embark on an affair. On the other hand, she may jump into bed with every guy who smiles at her. Then again, you might be utterly entwined in each other’s arms for the rest of your lives together. There’s just no way of knowing the future. All I can say is, if you can forgive her deep in your heart, you two may have a future full of happiness, but if you have a nagging doubt, it would be better to go your separate ways, and each look elsewhere for a relationship. It may hurt to break up, but trust me on this one, every breakup hurts, but you do get over it!!!
There’s no need to rush into marriage, take your time to work out what YOU really feel, and what YOU really want. Then you an take whatever actions are appropriate.