How to respond to my cousin’s strange sexual desires?
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Hello everyone,
I had explained my situation with my cousin in my previous question. We are now meeting once or twice a week, usually on weekends.
I am really clueless because my cousin is having some strange sexual desires. Few of the things, I am explaining here: She told me she wants to watch porn movies with me and while having sex she was trying to imitate the things from the videos. She asked me to choke her, spank her buttocks and boobs, bite her entire body, lick and bite her vagina.
She is getting too wild and as a result there are love bites on my body. She even demands food items to be included when we have sex. I am not able to understand her behavior as I never had any such experience in the past.
I am little afraid whether I am satisfying her needs or not, as I don’t want this relationship to end. How should I handle her weird sexual desires?
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What your cousin demands is a total normal thing as there are a lot of people who have such strong fantasies so do not worry and no need to be worried as she is a totally normal girl and fine with her fantasies. Let me tell you that my wife wants me to bite her boobs as hard as I could and sometimes I leave there red marks because of aggressive biting and she enjoys it a lot. Sometimes I afraid that in the heat of the moment I would hurt her and she will realize later on how much rough I was but she is enjoying all this and now I follow her demands carefully so I would not harm her.
It seems that she is into pain sex and it is perfectly normal. If you want to make her happy then keep discussing with her what she wants and what she likes during sex. Let her watch the porn and if she wants to imitate things from the porn then it is good for both of you but if she does something which makes you uncomfortable then you have a right to let her know how you feel and you both can come to the mutual agreement. The bottom line is communication so no drama would take place in your relationship.
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It’s not often we hear other guy complaining that his partner is too mild during sex!!!
Some people enjoy some quite physical things during sex. For some, such things as choking, and being slapped and spanked triggers extreme sexual excitement. A lot of girls fantasise about being raped, although the reality of rape is far from an enjoyable experience, I can assure you. She is in the fortunate position that she can experience these kind of things with someone who she trusts, and it makes her sex life much more exciting for her.
If you really find that you cannot enjoy the same kind of things as she does, then you should let her move on to somebody who will give her the kind of sex she needs. When you ask her to do certain things for you, does she do them? If so, then you have to consider that she needs these things for her own sexual gratification. Sexual activities of all kinds are perfectly okay, so long as those involved in them freely consent and enjoy them. When one partner doesn’t want to do something that the other does, this is where we start having problems. If you find that you are not nearly as adventurous as she is, perhaps you need to find a girl who has a more restrained and conventional attitude towards sex. On the other hand, give yourself a chance, and see how much joy she gets from the kind of things she likes, and let yourself go a bit, you may find that your sex life is much more enjoyable if you forget about any preconceived ideas of what is nice or nasty.
Good luck.