Hi, I’m just looking for others opinions on a certain situation.

My husband has a female co-worker who he is extremely close with. They both work on afternoon shift, however in different areas, but text constantly.

We have gotten into arguments over this in the past and he always states how they are just friends and a lot of the texting is work related and how I’m being extra and looking too much into things.

They text throughout the day at work, but also on off days and early hours in the mornings. I don’t think a day has gone by that they have not been in contact.

This woman has been at our wedding, and bought gifts for our children and tell him how he always wants to see our kids, yet I’ve only met her at work functions. I am a nosey person, and I do tend to look too much into certain things, but in my mind, if she is that close to him why have I not met her outside of work functions.

I’ve met her maybe 4 times but did not spend much time with her. I have met everybody who he is close to and even became friends with them, except for this woman. He knows I feel uncomfortable about their relationship because I get uncomfortable about things I don’t understand. I don’t understand why you have to text someone every single day. Especially when it comes to his other friends, I actually talk to them more than he does.

I know this woman is very flirtatious, as I heard that from other people he works with, and some messages I have read in his phone could be open to interpretation, but everytime I question him about her it always leads to an argument.

I really don’t think he would cheat on me. I just feel that someone who is so important to him to communicate with everyday, should be important to me as well. This woman is married as well.

When I asked my husband why we don’t do couple things, he said because of comments I made abouth her in the past makes him not want to bring her around me. All I said is that I found her unattractive; nice body but an ugly face. Probably my defenses made me say that comment out loud to him, but I usually say what I feel.

If I find another woman attractive I would say so. I just want others opinions on how much contact is too much and to pretty much ease my mind. Thanks!!!