My husband and i dated for 3 1/2 yrs and just got married 1 month ago. Yesterday he tells me that he and a married female friend began texting each other, it was innocent at first but then they started flirting until one day they exchanged a sexual pic. He said right after that he felt horrible and cut off all contact (that was 8 months ago). so yesterday her husband was snooping on her because she was supposedly having a relationship with a third unrelated guy (!), and somehow got a copy of all her old texts through sprint or whatever. He discovered my husband’s texts & the pic and was furious. He contacted my husband and told him as punishment he had to tell me what happened. So my husband fessed up.
But the whole thing doesn’t add up for me, why would her husband look up texts from 8 months ago. i told my husband that i didn’t believe him that it happened that long ago and i also think more took place than the just the flirting and pic. but he swears up and down that’s all that happened.
I’m at my wits end, I don’t trust him anymore & don’t know what to do:
-should i call her husband and see what she told him happened, to see if there are any inconsistencies?
-should I get one of those spy programs to see if he’s up to something else online?
-or should i just trust him and try to move forward?
My husband swears he’s telling the truth. which is now hard to believe because now i feel like i didn’t know him at all. He was the last person on this earth that i thought would do something like this. He says he thinks it had to do with stress and boredom at work and he also has childhood issues. He says he’s truly sorry and it was a terrible mistake. I still love him and don’t plan on leaving him, if this is all that happened. But how can i be sure it is all that happened? he could be a serial cheater for all i know! Am i overreacting? Any advice would be appreciated.