I’ve never done this before, so please bear with me. My husband has been having an emotional affair with a co-worker since March of this year…. they started out just talking at work (by phone) and then it slowly progressed to calls at night, texts, emails. My husband and I have been together for 14 years – no, it hasn’t been perfect, as all marriages, we had reached a point in our life where we took each other for granted and it became boring. So this woman filled his emotional needs – when I wasnt. Let me just add tho that this “woman” is a predator in her company… my husband is not the first nor will he be the last manager that she goes after….. I’m not making excuses for my husband, BUT when I woman pursues a married man as she did – it makes her a predator (side note: she’s married to) anyways, he was carrying on this emotional affair and life for us was slowly getting worse – april – June was a disaster – he was picking fights, etc,, he moved out 6/13/11 “to think” and he slept with “her” 6/17/11. He moved home july 2nd – I found out about the sex part July 11th – my world ended… Why I asked Why? he said as far as the sex – he thought it was the next step…. he didn’t really want to, but he wasn’t getting it from me, she was willing and I was always accusing him anyways, so he did it…. July 13th we decided to work on this marriage. he’s cut all ties with this woman – it took 2 weeks and several vulgar words to get her out of his life from both him and me, but it’s been 3 weeks and nothing. He is trying so hard to make me feel #1 – i really give him credit for his hard work, BUT I can’t seem to forget… she is always on my mind – and it ticks me off because she’s controlling me. I go to therapy and he will eventually go with me also. I need to know how other woman/men get over this overwhelming feeling.. i feel myself constantly comparing myself to her, and what they did,, etc… help me