I have tried everything from being supportive, encouraging exercising and eating healthy together, saying nothing and letting him do it himself (he requested I back off) and tough love. He thinks I am superficial and don’t understand how hard it is to change but I think he is too lazy to even try. I feel like i am backed into a corner because I love him so much and we are compatible in every other way, he is thoughtful and loving and I think he is a gorgeous man but i’m 25 and I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life having the same fight and not being intimate in the way I want to be with my husband! He says that I don’t have sex with him enough, and this is true– although it is frequent but not probably enough for a 25 year old couple. But how can I be attracted to someone who is so insecure about how he looks and who won’t show me his body?? He has become very jealous of other men too, and hates me wearing certain things that show my body but its annoying when you are young and fit and can’t wear what you want to.

Any advice would be great! He won’t let me talk to a professional and I can’t talk to my friends because they all know my husband well and I don’t think thats fair to him or them. Thanks