Ok – I know this is a touchy subject but it seems to be a common problem. I am worried about my husband’s masturbation habits. I don’t mind him masturbating and I generally think it a normal thing that guys do. But I think that in his case it has become a problem.

Our relationship is basically good, but we are hardly ever intimate with each other anymore and we are lucky if we have sex once every two weeks. Granted, we have two kids and life is really hectic so I don’t expect us to be like we were when we first got married, but I think he is using masturbation to get sexual satisfaction instead of being intimate with me.

Other than the intimacy issue, everything else is ok. He’s a good husband and a great dad, and we do love each other. We have talked about this issue and we both agree that it is a problem. He gets embarrassed about it and says that he would like to stop but it is hard to. I think that it is just a lot easier for him to masturbate than to find the energy to be intimate with me.

What I would like to know is whether anyone has tried using a chastity devise to help control their husband’s masturbation? Please don’t post any attack messages – I really would like to know if this is something that anyone has tried.

I know there is a lot of stuff about using chastity devises on the internet and that most of it is just fantasy. I also know that talking about the problem and communicating is the most important thing we can do to solve it. I don’t have any desire to dominate my husband or to control him, I am just interested in helping him control his masturbation’s habit. Talking about it can only go so far and to make a change, at some point you have take some kind of action too. I know that using a chastity devise alone is going to fix the problem, but I am interested to know if using one could help.

Please don’t post angry replies. I really want to know if anyone has any experience with this.