I am in love with a woman 15 years older than me. What to do?
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This all started a few months back. I was quite close to a lady professor of mine in college who is a widow. Now she is 39 and I am 23. A year ago, we again connected on Facebook and day by day we got closer.
Around 6 months ago we met casually and one thing led to another and a couple of months ago we had sex. We both thought it was a mistake and stopped seeing each other. But again we couldn’t stay away and started talking a couple of days after this incident.
Now the problem is: we both have developed feelings for one each other and to make matters worse we are having regular physical relations which we both can’t stop. She is not trapping me because she herself has told me we can’t get married. We both are madly in love and its not just about sex.
Please tell me what to do? I miss her whenever I am away from her. I have had a girlfriend before but didn’t feel for her this away. I really want to be with my love but I am afraid of the stigma.
Please help me with your guidance. I don’t know what to do.
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You are afraid and she is sure that you people cannot get married so if you both are unable to handle yourself emotionally well then stop seeing each other.
However, if you know what you people want from each other than you both can continue with each other in present scenario. You both should understand that this relationship of yours is one day going to end and you both should ready for that until that you both could be with each other and enjoy it.
If you are worried about the future break up then this relationship is not for you folks. 15 years of gap is not small one and she is widow too so future together is nearly impossible.
What you both need to do is honestly talk about what kind of relationship you both are expecting and how you both are going to handle it in coarse time.
It sounds that you are emotionally become dependent on her if that is the case then you should stop seeing her as early as possible for you better future otherwise you will ruin your mental peace and life too.
Here you both should take practical decision seeing your current circumstances of life. However, if you both want to enjoy few years of life together then this is the time you can be emotional partner and physical partner of each other but that should be secret from everyone to avoid unwarranted and embarrassing questions of others.