I am married. Starved of Sex. Should I accept these offers from Gays for BDSM Sex?
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Hi Friends,
I am 37 years of age. 13 years back, I had an arranged marraige. My wife is like a typical Indian girl who doesnt have much interest in sex, where as I enjoy normal as well as kinky sex.
I like to try out different things like role play, dirty chat and BDSM. Unfrotunately, she doesnt have any interest in all of these which made our sex life boring. Then 3 years back, my father expired and being the only son, my mother moved with us and since then due to not having a seperate bedroom, we started sleeping in the same room, and thus our sex life has became a zero. My wife has got new excuse of my mother for not having a sex.
Since last 3 years, due to lack of sex, it has started taking toll on my body and mind and now a days I feel crazy and always think of sex. At the same time, while doing the sex chat on BDSM site, many bottom and gays contacted me and offered to have sex with them.
Anal sex is my favorite thing and my wife hates it like anything. I am not a gay so I never accepted those invitations. Now, a few gay slaves contacted me who enjoyed BDSM and are ready to do whatever I wish to do.
That is a tempting offer for a sex hungry person like me. On the one end, I am not getting a chance to have normal sex but on the other hand, having invitations from bottom slaves who enjoy getting spanked, tortured, domination, and anal sex.
Now I am really confused and dont know what to do? I hope someone from Askanjali will guide me.
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You have a right to have sex and if you are not getting it from your wife then you can seek it from outside but that is a risky as that may put your healthy in trouble and that would be a permanent solution. You should look for the permanent solution and that solution your wife can only provide you so talk to her and let her know about your needs.
You both should arrange something so your mom cannot be a problem in between you two. If possible then find a rented place where three of you can move in and you guys can have separate room to have your privacy. If wife does not show any interest then there is a problem in your life and you have to rethink on your marriage life.
There might be possibility that your wife cannot match your libido but she can try to meet you half the way which is fine for both of you. Therefore, first thing you should do is a find a place where you can get a separate room to sleep with your wife and this is understandable situation and I am sure your mom will support you in this regard as she must be aware that you guys need privacy to have sex as that is normal. Keep communicating your feelings with your wife and let her know what you expect from her.