I am too possessive about my girlfriend. This is hurting our relationship. What to do?
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Hi guys,
Me and my girlfriend love each other very much and we will be getting married after 2 years. Our relationship is very strong and we would never leave each other what ever happens.
Our love started when we were in 8th grade (school) and since 7 years we are together. Now a days, I dont know why (It may be because I love her too much), when ever she goes out with her friends etc I feel some unknown guy might look at her body and some cheap teens will talk bad about her or her dressings style.
This keeps irritating me everyday. I feel she is not safe and something might happen to her. Some guy might harrass her. I tried speaking to her about this but she thinks I am restricting her from being free.
Can someone please tell me how to overcome this feeling? Any girl or woman tell me what I can do please?
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She is right that you are restricting her from being free as it is come off that way clearly. If someone looking at her and some teens are making comments on her behind her back then no one can do anything and it is something you need to accept it and need to be cool with it. If you are worried about her safety then let her know and ask her to be more careful as you do not want any harm happens with you and I am sure she will understand your concern but do not make any rules which she has to follow just because you are not okay with her lifestyle.
I think you should consider her adult enough to take care of herself. The problem here is ‘you’ and not ‘she’ so whatever the thing that requires to fix the situation is something you have to do. Sometimes we become too much sensitive towards the people we love and that would be the trap for them which we might even not aware so be careful and give her space and allow her to be free with her friends.
However, if you have doubt on some her friends’ integrity then discuss with her and do not make her feel that she has made bad choices.