I had sex with many guys before marriage. Now I am not satisfied. Help.
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Hi,
My name is Priya. I am a 23 years old married girl. I am addicted to sex. I love sex a lot. I am married for 2 years. My husband is 26 years old and he is working in a multinational company. We had a love marriage but before that we had a relationship for 1 year.
Before marriage, I had sex with many guys. I had sex with my husband also before marriage and he knew that I had few boyfriends before him but I didn’t tell him the number of guys I had sex with. After marriage, I am not getting that much sex what I deserve as my husband has to stay out of station most of the time and even when he stays in town then also he seems to be very busy with his work.
So we don’t have much sex because of that. For last few months he is also not getting really hard while having sex with me. As I am addicted to sex, I am not getting that much pleasure. This is leaving me unsatisfied. When we were just married we had lots of fun but I was still not satisfied.
Now I realised that I am not happy with one cock, as I need more than one cock and different cocks to satisy my sexual urges and lust. I am desparate for having sex with different guys, but later I feel guilty. I don’t want to cheat my husband.
What should I do? Please suggest some ways I can satisfy my lust.
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The first thing I would say is this: sit down with your husband and talk to him sensibly. Explain how you feel, and how you feel he’s neglecting you. Marriages where the sex is not satisfying are frequently marriages that file. Usually, we have husbands writing in saying that their wife is no longer interested, but in this case, who is on the other foot. You need far more sex than you are actually getting.
You are a normal healthy woman, and you have a high sex drive. You has been used to having plenty of sex, and perhaps in some ways that has spoiled you for married life. If we you were used to swapping one guy with another on a regular basis, you are constantly being given new experiences, even if only in the form of a different penis. Every guy probably added his own little tricks, kinks, and maybe even a few perversions. Now that you are stuck with one guy, and he seems like he’s not that bothered one way or the other about whether you are getting satisfaction, you are finding your sex life is extremely unsatisfying. The only way you can remedy this without resorting to extramarital affairs or one night stands, is by sitting and talking to him seriously. You say that you had a love marriage, which I must say I think is the correct way to approach married life in the first place. The trouble is, even loving somebody doesn’t guarantee that you won’t have a cup from time to time. The thing is, if he doesn’t realise there’s a problem, he would just keep sailing along, in his own little world, thinking everything in the garden is rosy. If you don’t tell him how you feel, he, being a man, probably won’t even realise it. In my experience, men always want to do something to sort out any issues. With that in mind, you might find it difficult having him sit down and listen to you. We girls tend to talk about our problems, or guys always want to hit them with a big hammer!!!
You need to find a way to let him know how unhappy you are about your sex life, but not in a way that threatens his self-image of masculinity. If you do that, and it will be self-defeating. You need him to feel desired, as it should stimulate him into better efforts.
I would recommend that you go online, and check out some of the sex aid websites. It is my understanding that sex aids can’t be purchased in India, as it is illegal to sell them their. I know people tell me that there are backstreet shops in the major cities where these things can be bought, but it’s just as easy to buy things by mail order these days, and they come delivered in a plain package so it’s not like anyone will know what you’ve bought. As far as sex aids are concerned, you can buy something that will suit any kind of application you can think of from mild to wild. Even though I have an extremely enjoyable and active sex life, I still have one or two toys for those times when work means I’m on my own. I do have to travel a fair amount as part of my work, and rather than get up to any serious mischief, I much preferred to satisfy myself. What I’m suggesting is that you buy vibrators and all those, and please yourself whenever you feel the urge. A 10 inch bully boy dildo, and a second one for your anus, and your imagination, are really all you need to give yourself the most mind blowing orgasms. You don’t need to resort to other guys.
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