I have been married for 10 years and want sex daily. My wife does not.
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This is my 1st question on AA.
I am a faithful and happily married man for 9 years with 2 kids. The problem that I am facing is a bit weird. I was intoduced to the sexual world at the age of 12 and have been mastrubating since then.
At the age of 21, I got married (I know its too early) and I am happy with my wife. My wife is a normal Indian wife with less desire for sex and more towards just spending time with her (without touching her). This was good for 3-4 years.
After the birth of our 1st daughter, somehow my urge towards sex increased manifold (I think this may be because I did not have sex for 9 months and watched lots of porn during that period) and from then onwards, I want to have sex with my wife on a daily basis.
As mentioned earlier, she still has the same feeling for sex but wants to do it once a week or once in 2 weeks. I dont want to hook up with some other girl / lady for sex though I chat with random females related to sex.
I want to know if I should visit a doctor to get rid of my sexual desires or is there a way out of this? Please give me your valued Advice.
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It sounds that you both are not on the same page as far as sexual aspect is concerned and you are not alone with such sexual incompatibility. The solution for this problem is the compromise from the both ends so you both can meet the half way where both can get what you want. She needs to put some effort to satisfy you where is you need to understand that you cannot get the sex all the time from her as she has low sex drive which is natural.
I would say communicate with her and express your feelings to get more sex when she is in a good but make sure that you do not nag her otherwise she would get defensive and your communication would not be able to fix anything.
If she does not want vagina sex then she can give you a blowjob or hand job to satisfy your urges. If she wants sex 2 times a week and you want daily then you both can make a deal to have sex like 3-4 times a week which is a middle one. There is no need to see the doctor as you do not have any problem but natural urges to have sex which most of the men do have. Therefore, talk to her and remember, patience is the key.