Hi all, I’m a non-gay older brother of an evidently gay little brother and I’m in a weird situation. I’m 22, he’s 17, and I’ll call him Luke. He hasn’t come out so I’m just guessing he’s gay.
He’s had this best friend (Mark) since they were about 14 and they are extremely close. Luke is more of an artistic type but he sucks at school. Mark is more academic and a straight A student and he helps Luke out a lot. They have pretty much had the same routine for the past 3 years – they go to school, come back to our home, go to Luke’s room and study. Dinner at 7, and then more studying before Mark goes home at 11pm. He sleeps over on the weekends. Ever since then, Luke’s grades have massively improved.
A few weeks ago, I started hearing stuff daily, just after dinner. At first, I thought it was music or the neighbors or something, but then I realized it sounds a lot like a bed squeaking and banging against the wall. I soon realized it was coming from Luke’s room. Still, I thought who knows what they’re doing, teenagers are weird.
But then this weekend when Mark slept over, I stayed up until about 4am (for unrelated reasons), and on my way to the bathroom, I actually heard two voices moaning from Luke’s room.
So, I’m 99% sure they’re having sex. Should I say anything to Luke? I would die if I knew people could hear me having sex and I’d want them to tell me. But Luke is not openly gay and I don’t want to put him in an awkward situation. But then again, what if our parents hear it? This is probably not the way he’d want to come out to mom. Also, what if mom forbids Mark from coming over? I’m certain they’re actually studying a lot of the time and that Mark is a positive influence on Luke since he has never had such good grades.
I don’t actually live at home anymore, this is just temporary, and I’m leaving on Friday so I have a small window to deal with this, if I’m going to deal with it at all.