I let a man fondle my penis in the Train. Am I gay?
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I was travelling in a train. I had a RAC ticket (two people have to share a same seat). I am a 19 year old boy and the other person on my seat was a 45-55 year old man. We both some how tried sleeping on the same berth.
After some time I felt his hand on my penis. I acted as if I was asleep. My cock became hard. Then he opened my zip and slipped his hand inside my boxer. At first I was feeling horny. He started stroking my penis and within seconds I ejaculated. I woke up and went to bathroom to clean up.
I came back, sat on the seat and never spoke to him. Now I feel very embarrassed that I let a man touch my penis.
Does it makes me gay? How should I forget this incident?
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The fact that a man touched your penis does not automatically mean that you are gay. But you pretended to be asleep, and allowed him to masturbate you, which suggests to the readers of this forum that you are complicit in this activity. If you hadn’t wanted this to happen, you would have created a commotion, and reviled the man for what he did. Instead, you allowed him to bring you to completion, and then calmly went and cleaned yourself up. At no time did you resist his ministrations, nor did you censure him for his behaviour when you return from the washroom.
You obviously enjoyed what he did, and as you had no real objections, that suggests to me that you are either gay or bisexual. I think you actually know for yourself how you feel about this, so quite why you are asking us to confirm your own suspicions about your sexuality, well, perhaps you need reassurance.
Despite what Indian society might have to say on the subject, being a homosexual or bisexual is not some kind of a crime. Your sexual orientation is something that develops early on in the fetal stage before your mother brings you into the world. Basically you are born with your sexual orientation already preprogrammed. The idea that you can be turned into a Homosexual, or be converted from being a homosexual into a heterosexual man is complete nonsense. Your sexual orientation can no more be changed than the colour of your hair or eyes. You can bleach your hair a different colour, but when it grows back, it will still be the colour you were born with. So, if you are gay or bisexual, learn to accept that this is the way you are, and get on with life.
You might find this hard to come to terms with, as Indian society still has some pretty antiquated attitudes towards people’s sexual identity, and anything that diverges from societies rather bigoted attitudes is frequently regarded with loathing and unreasoned fear. Attitudes are slowly changing, but it requires courage to admit to yourself who you are, and it takes even more courage to face the truth.
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One incident does not indicate your sexual orientation so do not assume that you are a gay just because you allowed him to stroke your penis. You did it in the heat of the moment and sexual frustration. If you like women then you are not a gay for sure. Your mind at that time considered him a sexual object so you allowed him to play with your penis. If you want to forget this incident then stop thinking about it anymore and consider it is a bad experience. Be more careful in the future and learn from the incident. Time will take care of your thinking so do not worry and relaxed yourself.