I slept with my best friend, now the relationship has changed. Why?
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Just like every other normal guy, even I have a bestfriend and she is so cute and it is so much fun to be with her. We talk about all the stuff whether it is personal or any other kind of stuff.
But recently we had sex and I now feel kind of different in talking to her. Why has this happened? Does Sex change a relationship?
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We can term your relationship is friends with benefit and that is quite normal these days in metro cities so you are not alone who slept with best friend for fun.
Sex would definitely change nature of relationship, as it is something so personal you share with someone. Sometimes sex get you so close and eventually you fell in love, sometimes sex makes relationship bitter for no reason if there is a guilt part involved.
It might be possible that in the heat of moments, she had sex with but later she is feelings gross to do with you as she shares different kind of relationship with you.
If she is compatible and mature then she can handle it much better way and you can talk to her on the subject. If you do not want your friendship to be affected then discussion requires and explain her that was accident and you both will take care in the future and ask her to move on.
It would be also better if you give her some time to come to the terms and give her enough time to digest the fact. Remember patience is the key.
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It is often the case that really close friendships become very happy relationships.
If you think about it clearly, you have always liked this girl, you think she’s pretty and cute, and you can talk to her about anything. This is an intimacy between the two of you that is more than just a case of casual acquaintance. You feel happy and confident in her presence, and she obviously feels the same. That’s why you can have such intimate conversations. You find her attractive, and guess what, she finds you attractive too. That’s why you finished at making love to each other!!!
It’s too early to start talking about settling down and getting married, as you have only just discovered something very special and meaningful about this girl than you previously understood, but believe me, happy marriages start from being really good friends. Really good friends become really intimate lovers, and really intimate lovers become wonderful married partners. It doesn’t always happen, but on the balance of probabilities, it may be moving in that direction for the two of you.
Now ask yourself this question: if she didn’t want to see me again, how would I feel? If the thought of it leaves a pain in your chest, and unpleasantly hollow feeling in your stomach, then it looks like you have been hit by Cupid’s arrows. I think you love her, but it’s such a new sensation to you that you don’t even realise it yet.
Just let things follow their natural course, and I’m sure that both of you will be very happy. If you have found someone who will be your future wife, don’t let anybody try to put you off, or force you to marry somebody else. What the two of you have together is too precious to throw away.
I wish you lots of luck for a hopefully shared future.
Love to you both,
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hello,
So you had sex with your best friend, congrats. you had something bothyou wanted, there was an underlying current of attraction, desire. you fulfilled it. why should you feel different other than happier. yes, sex is an expression of love, mutual liking, desire etc. it is the normal feelings humans have or should have. nothing to be ashamed about. nothing to feel guilty about. are you feeling anyway guitly or disturbed / you do not have to. many associate sex with guilt or feel sex is wrong. it is not so. i have feeling in sexual relations like this men tend to feel guilty than women. that is my experience and that is how Salma opined in her answer to one of my questions, log back.
i am asking you to enjoy your new found intimacy and sexual pleasure. make her your sex mate, you under no compulsion to fall in love with her or marry her as you have not promised anything of that sort to her. if it happens naturally let it happen. other wise you part as friends. pre -marital sex is no sin according to me as you are not cheating anyone.
i want to narrate one incident that happened today. i was interested in a mature ,married lady, who also showed some interest in me or i thought so. today, with some fear i expressed my interest in her and invited her for an outing, she just smiled and agreed . she was cool. see i was so scared with a feeling of guilt to express my interest in her. but she took it normally.
i mean to say that the discomfort you are feeling now( if it is discomfort. you have not mentioned how you feel different) may not be felt by your best friend , as she is woman, who more mentally strong than men,
so just enjoy your intimate relation and pleasure and happiness that gives, good luck.