Hi All,

 I am 25 years old, male, working in IT company.  I had a girl friend who is 22 and doing her C.A. We are from the same caste and community. Her family is quite rich and we are a upper middle class family. We were in love for 4 years and she was with me in all my ups and downs.

Despite this fact, in the last few months she has been telling me that our horoscope does not match and we will not be happy, if married. She was born after 10 years to her parents. She says that her parents have dreams about her marriage. Finally, we stopped talking due to her parents interference. She believes in astrology and is adamant about it. She asked me to move on.

I love her a lot. But this is really hurting. All this has lead to my inconsistent work which finally reached a stage where I would have lost my job. I cried a lot and was in a deep trauma. We had lot of sex talks / phone sex, went on couple of outings, kissed but no physical relationship. I have an emotional attachment.  I am not speaking to family and friends. My mind is occupied only with her memory.

I know you will say, she’s not the only girl. Still I feel a lot about her. I practice yoga, exercises to relax the mind but nothing helps.

Would you suggest that I talk to her again and lose my self respect? If I speak to her again, I will lose my family pride as well. I am in a confused state. Sometimes I feel that I should work hard and reach the big stage in life. But I weep a lot in depression. I am a quite person who does not interact with girls much. Although I had 2 close girl friends, who I could share all things with , they have got married.

Is this emotional attachment or lust ? Please help me to come out of this.