So, last night was the first evening in ages (probably almost a year) that I’ve initiated anything. Not because I wanted to, but because I felt that I should. Once again, I really didn’t enjoy anything about it, and afterwards, decided to broach the subject of intimacy styles, and whether what he does is his actual style. Guess what? After almost 2 years together, I find out that nope, his style is much different than what he’s been doing, and he just didn’t want to offend me by bringing it up (these are the words he used). I’m his wife; why does he think he’ll offend me by saying something to the strain of, “hey, why don’t we try something different?” So, I let him know that I’m not a huge fan of intimacy as of late, and that I was glad to hear that what we had been doing can change. Here’s hoping to enjoy intimacy once again!

He also said that he still considers himself really new to the world of sex. How can I, along with him, help him get over this hump, and maybe start exploring things a little more. I’ve suggested him watching a little porn, not for the sexuality of it, but more as a learning tool. I got into the world of sex fairly late in life, compared to many people I know. I was 26, and was completely freaked out, so I checked out some porn to see what could be learned. It helped quite a bit in that regard. He thinks that we should watch it together, and even though I don’t have a problem doing so, I think it might be good for him to just check things out on his own first. We also have a kama sutra book and a sex book that his Mom (of all people) gave us. He’s okay with looking at those too, but he would rather get hot and heavy, then dig out the books to choose a position. Does anyone find this a little different? I should probably note that we’ve done a grand total of 3 positions in our 2 years together. It took him a year and a half to be OK enough to add the third one in. As for me, I’m getting really tired of being the tag-along with the sex. Honestly, the only reason I do it at all is because I have to; we’re married, and I don’t have a choice. What I hope for him is that he gets more comfortable, and opens up the communication lines at some point, and I would like to enjoy intimacy again.