Some background: I’m bisexual, I live with my husband and my girlfriend. My husband knows this and says he’s ok with it. Since it has been working for a year or so, I guess he is.

As far as I know he never masturbates, until recently. I was raped 2 months ago and have not been very attentive to hubby’s sexual needs. I suspected he has been masturbating but said nothing because he deserves his privacy. Saturday I walked in on him masturbating on our bed with my laptop AND a nude picture of my girlfriend. Kumiko had taken the pictures of both of us nude when we were acting silly one night. I had kept these pictures in a folder under my underwear. I was surprised by this and asked him why he had taken only Kumiko’s picture when there was pictures of both of us. He had no answer and I am really hurt that he would fantasize over her and not me. Admittedly, she is better looking than me and not skinny like me, she has an almost perfect body But, I am his wife and he is supposed to want me over all others. In my opinion, he was cheating.

Was he cheating?