I’m not sure what to do and need advice. We have split up for a certain period previously due to him becoming controlling and nasty over a period of a few years. When he threatened to start hitting me, I left. I took my girls and moved back home, but after a year he begged us to return saying he’d changed. We returned and things are much better. We had been getting along quite well. Then today I found teen porn on his kindle. I was a little suspicious, or not sure what was going on because every time more recently when he used the computer, he would make absolutely sure that no-one could even accidentally use his screen log in. None of us completely close out, but he does.

Our sex life is none existant, and has been like that for 7-9 years (honestly can’t remember which year it was it last happened). We were married young and have been married now for 20 years. I am more concerned because we have 2 teen girls, one of them, our oldest who is now 17, he favors over the other who is 14, and has for a very long time. He would give her general information that he should have been telling me, as his wife, but didn’t. This might have included going on a business trip overseas, what time he would be home. Now, he buys this child basically everything she wants.

After I had moved out, we discussed divorce and he said ‘well, I want ”child1” back here then. Even before we moved back I felt it was weird of him to say that, but as I knew he favored her, let it go. But now this has come up again, it has made me concerned. Not only due to it being TEEN porn but that we don’t have sex at all. I’ve tried to be a good wife for him, have moved around the country for every job he has wanted to go to, I left my family in another (western) country twice now. We have no family here at all (his parents passed on while we were in our 20’s) which means we have no support. So I am doing the best I can.

Is this something I should be worried about? I asked him when he got home just a few minutes ago if there was a reason he had teen porn on his kindle, and he just looked at me with an embarrassed face and walked out.