Male to Male sexual experience – should I go ahead with it?
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Hello, I am a 28 year old ‘Bicurious/Bisexual’ guy in Pune. I have had an attraction towards mature/old men for a very long time and now I have decided to do something about it. I have been toying with the idea of getting into a purely sexual relations with a mature/old man I met through a gay dating website. I am not interested in having intercourse but would only like to indulge in oral sex. What I would like to know is – what kind of precautions should I take before I indulge in such an activity? Is there any chance of me contracting an STD if I use a flavored condom before performing the act of blowjob on the man I intend to get together with? If I do decide to have anal sex with my partner, both of us being males, is there anything in particular that we should be careful about? Thanks in advance for your help
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I assume you are unmarried and having psychological attraction towards male and female. Else you wont write bisexual. So did you have sex with male till now or still having that feeling?
You said you dont want to have intercourse other than oral, and later you said you would. Which one is the actual thought? A lot of male who are homosexual do get along with male only, doesnot mean they go for anal sex. A lot are on dry sex or upto oral sex. To be in arelationship with a male, be it matured or same aged, an oral sex is always okay.
If you onot know the person or even know hom and not sure of health status, it always better to use condom for oral sex. Avoid lip kiss, go for only oral job when the dick is wrapped.
For anal sex with your male partner, whether you are a top or bottom, follow the rule of analsex. A number of times that has been discussed, follow those. Consent has to be there, body should be relaxed, plenty of lubes to losen up, go slow to avoid any complication and use condom as a must. Once you are settled with someone and both have a monogamous relationship after checking both are STD/STI free, you can keep using lube without condom. But analsex doesnot work as it shows in porno, even for men, they go through a set process. If you are not following those, dont spoil the bed sheet with yellow stuff.
Take your time to read other questions where how to have analsex is comprehensively discussed in this blog.
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1st of all the adult dating sites are usually false and all they do is trump you with your money, so be careful with the safety. 2nd of all oral sex, or intercourse with a complete stranger, a condom is a must. Oral sex can transmit STD’s/STI’s, so why take chances with it. You can surely enjoy a blow-job either giving one or getting one by a condom, be it flavoured or a normal one. If possible don’t kiss your partner as well. If there is some form of cut on the tongue it can transmit the virus, so no kissing.
As for anal, I’m sure this has been discussed numerous times in the forum. The anal passage should be clean and it should be lubricated well for your penis to enter, the muscles should be relaxed and one should maintain calmness in such conditions. Remember to wrap your dick while you indulge in intercourse.
You mentioned you don’t like to go on with the intercourse but later on said, if I go what should I do; I think you need to achieve a clear consensus within yourself as to what exactly you’re going to do with your fantasy. As I said be careful with the adult sites, they are not trustworthy, play your cards close to your chest.