Hi!
I’m 21 and my future wife is 23. We’re Christian and are getting married, as virgins, next year. We do get involved in kissing and cuddling.

My situation is that I have a very high sex drive. I believe touching is a wayof connecting, so I like hugging and touching those who are close to me, and I dont feel like hugging those I dont know or like, differently from what people in my country do (brazilians love hugging everybody). It goes without saying that I really enjoy making out with her when we get the chance and im looking forward to taking it to the next level after marriage.

In the beginning of our relationship, she seemed to be very much into kissing too. She took the initiative in making out pretty soon in our relationship, quite differently from what our christian tradition encourages (kissing and making out is ok, but usually later in the relationship).

Recently, though, her sex drive seems to have gone down, while mine naturally increased with the augmentsd intimacy and deprivation of sex. Thus, I’ve been “rejected” more often than before, and kissing is not as intense.

I try doing things I know thar turn her on, such as massaging, but it doesnt seem to work. Even after very romantic dinners, going out, surprises, she wont feel like doing more than smooching.

One of those days, I massaged her, and tried to build up the moment very slowly, which seemed to work, but when I got to trying to kiss her, she kissed me for 2 min or so and stopped. Out of frustation I said she was “hard to please”. She got very sad after I said it, and started crying saying she really is hard to please and that shes been trying to be as affectionate as I am, but thar she just cant. She doesnt like kissing the way I do and that shes afraid of being a bad wife and not satisfying me.

I feel very frustrated because I know I need touching and eventually sex to be fullfilled. I reassured her our relationship is bigger than that and that I dont want her to fake or do something she doesnt feel like doing. I love her very, very much and I want to spend the rest of my life serving God with her. I recognize, though, this is a problem. She even mentioned she might have her hormones checked… I really dont know what to do.